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What Men Want From Women

Deti, a regular commenter on a variety of blogs wrote this in a comment on the Haley’s Halo blog post last year. It’s quite the comment and worth reposting but with a title:

What men want from women:

We want you to celebrate with us when we’ve triumphed.
We want you to help us through when we’re down.
We want you to stay with us when we’re down.
We want you to not be constantly looking for a better model.
We want you to encourage us when things aren’t going well.
We want a simple, heartfelt “I love you” at the end of a tough day.
We want you to show us and tell us that we satisfy you sexually.
Wa want you to show us that we are still attractive to you physically.

A man NEVER gets tired of hearing from his woman how great she thinks he is. NEVER. You can’t say it enough. If you do say it, you will have his undying love.

He will work himself into an early grave at a job he hates for you and your children. He will gladly throw himself in front of speeding cars for you. He will gladly lay down his life for you. He will give you all he is, all he has, all his money, and all the resources he can bring to bear.

And all he asks in return is for tenderness, a pleasant disposition, physical affection at reasonable intervals, and that you stay with him.

Why is that so hard to figure out?

It’s hard for women to figure out because of the vicious circle of lies and misinformation and the thin social mist of misandry.

More good stuff from Deti, here.

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20 thoughts on “What Men Want From Women

  1. Damn, this man puts it all so simply. I’m going to post this on my real life social networks and see what happens.

  2. Brian on said:

    I’m sure they could figure it out. But there’s one reason most don’t bother.

    “all his money, and all the resources he can bring to bear.”

    They can get that without keeping him around.

    • Hamster Tamer on said:

      “They can get that without keeping him around.”

      BINGO! The White Knight in me resists going all the way down the Afor/wimminz rabbit hole, but with every intimate imbroglio, more Blue coating is stripped from the Red Pill.

      Truly, no advanced civilization can endure unless wimminz are completely dominated emotionally, and held to account legally.

  3. Candide on said:

    Geezus you good guys ask for way too much. This is why women like bad boys, you know. All bad boys ask of them is a fuck. You’re asking for a whole bloody list!

    • Ha!

      But that list is so much shorter than the list women insist on.

    • I can tell you’re joking, but still…

      Since about half of the items on that list could be condensed in one — show some support for your man — it’s really not asking for too much.

      Besides, we could overlook a lot of the list if you all would simply not get so fat.

      • DC Phil on said:

        More importantly, “Be honest with yourself about whether you truly like men for who they are and that they light your fire. Or, you see them as the lesser sex and something to only be tolerated.”

  4. P Ray on said:

    It’s hard for women to deliver on that,
    because:
    1) many want to be paid for existing “My presence is my gift to you”.
    2) they want a paid arrangement, not a relationship “Since men rule the world, you have to pay to show you appreciate me”
    3) being stuck with a guy they consider a loser is bad for her social standing “I’m not holding hands with you in public (because my girlfriends might see me)
    4) they want subservience, not compromise “You have to treat me as more than a human being”.
    5) they want to preserve their image to others “It’s not you, it’s me”.

  5. NotsoAnon on said:

    You have an easier time drinking from a broken cup than to see these compliments leave a woman’s lips.

  6. deti on said:

    Thanks, PrivateMan. Surprised you found this nugget.

    Reading it again, it sounds more than a little beta.

    The point at the time was: Women, try a little tenderness, and see what you get in return.

  7. mtotten11 on said:

    It only sounds a little beta b/c it comes from a relationship-oriented mindset.

    You could def make it sound ‘more Alpha’ by substituting ‘expect’ for ‘want’, and caveating it at the end with ‘or there’ll be someone else who will’

  8. DC Phil on said:

    Probably not the best place to post this, but here goes:

    http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Myth_of_Male_Power

    The book is fairly widely available, and there’s an audio interview on YouTube you can search for.

    Essential reading. One point that jumped out at me when I first let my gaze fall upon it was that men liberated women, but they did nothing to liberate themselves from their own terribly constricting gender roles.

  9. LostSailor on said:

    Shorter version:

    1. respect
    2. love
    3. sex
    4. no bitching

    If women don’t have #1, men won’t have the other three.

    • P Ray on said:

      Women can tolerate a great deal of disrespect from men “other women are attracted to”.
      Ref: Hillary Clinton, Elizabeth Edwards, Maria Shriver.
      Men can have all three without #1 towards the woman, if enough other women are attracted to them.
      The idea of “man must walk on hot coals to appease me” is only so that the resources of betas get used to help her connect with an alpha.
      With the last words of hers being “Thanks a lot for what you did for me, you’re so nice. Let’s just be friends”.
      A woman who really appreciates a man will either want him for herself, try to set him up with her friends … or both.
      NEVER think that a woman restricting your social circle is a sign of love.

  10. UrbanCounselor on said:

    I broke up with my ex-girlfriend because when I said this to her it was like I was speaking mandarin at warp speed.

    • Hamster Tamer on said:

      I infer that your “nexted” GF is a Western “liberated” wimminz from a G8 country.

      Ironically, had she been a woman who actually understands/speaks Mandarin (as her native tongue, i.e. Chinese gal), she would have already known and displayed these attitudes, and not needed the speech. (*rimshot*)

  11. Olivia Stocum on said:

    Found this by accident! It’s great. Love it, and really, how hard is it? He’ll die for his woman but she doesn’t want to be his glory in return? People are just plain selfish, that’s why relationships fall apart.

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