Lurkers Of The World, Unite! (Again)
It’s been three years since I asked for my blog’s lurkers to “out” themselves here in this digital auditorium. So, I’m doing it again. Because this blog has been around for awhile, I strongly suspect that many of the readers since my last call-out of lurkers have moved on and a new group has moved in.
I want you lurkers to identify yourselves. You don’t have to say anything except the following:
1. Age
2. Gender
3. Location
4. How you found my blog
If you want to give compliments to my blog, I won’t say no. If you have suggestions, speak up. If you think I’m just an old windbag, get off my lawn. If you’re a hater, your comment won’t make it through moderation.
I’ll leave this post up for a few days so folks have a chance to comment. I also hope to respond to each comment.
You regulars, stay out of this. This is between me and my lurkers.
[If you lurkers want to donate or support me, the Donate button is on every page and it’s easy to get to my Patreon page]
The Private Man 
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52
Male
Rural Missouri
Recommended blog, reblog, or via a comment on another blog
Good, solid advice given here, unfortunately unable to utilize it at this stage of the game.
Thank you. I do appreciate my readers.
I look at this blog occasionally and also try to comment occasionally.
I’m over 60 and still married after 30 years so I don’t need dating advice, however I’m deeply interested in the psychology of male-female interaction. Scholarly texts are a somewhat miserly source of information, and a far richer and deeper well of knowledge are the experiences and anecdotes of the average joe in real world situations. Blogs such as this one, are very valuable in helping men cope with the chaos of todays sexual and marriage market places.
Male
Location: North Germany
Found this blog via Captain Capitalism
Most of my readers are either young or over 45. I like the international readership.
47
Male
Australia
After the end of the 7th LTR went looking for answers. Found RP theory. Helped me understand what was going wrong/why I always crashed and burned. Have an inkling now. After a extremely dark year, found some focus and direction. Now too busy to consider or even be bothered with the so called fairer sex. The payoff is not worth the effort. I now live my life for me.
The blog post after this one talks about that. And thanks for your readership!
23
Rome, Italy
I guess through the manosphere I dont really remember
And I’m male by the way
It’s very good to know that my blog reaches far beyond North American shores.
27
Male
The rational male
Washington, D.C.
Rollo and I have spoken on the phone. He’s a good sort. He’s wordy, but his ideas are spot on.
63
Male
Ohio
The Red Pill Room
Ian Ironwood is also spot on and just as wordy as Rollo! But Ian has better illustrations in his blog. Hubba hubba!
Age: 40
Gender: Male
Location: Australia
How I Found You: Don’t really remember. Most likely a link from another blog
Mentioned you in one of my recent posts. Hope you don’t mind me linking to it, but if it helps some of your readers to discover other blogs they way not otherwise be aware of, then all the better.
https://evilnewwargod.wordpress.com/2015/09/18/how-the-red-pill-helped-to-save-me-from-oblivion/
Anyone is free to suggest a blog. I’ve read stories about the cultural shifts in Oz… oh my.
43
Man
Aurora, CO
I have no idea how I found your blog, but I think it was the first. From yours I was pointed to Roosh, Rollo, and Roissy.
Those are the three Rs of the Manosphere. Thanks for reading my blog.
38
Man
Boston, MA area
Through link from another blog (Elusive Wapiti, if I remember correctly)
Appreciate your writing style and perspective, private man.
I’m grateful for the compliment.
55
Male
Los Angeles
Through the “Other Good Blogs” roll at Roosh or Rollo or Heartiste. I honestly don’t recall, but I check in regularly. Thanks for asking.
I’ve gotten a fair bit of readership through those guys. It’s flattering to be linked from them.
You address the needs of guys in an age range that most manosphere bloggers ignore or are too young to have adequate insight about.
59
female
northern California
Red Pill Room
I’m very pleased to have female readers.
26, F, Hong Kong
Random google search. I might stick around though, it’s worth the read.
Hong Kong, amazing.
48, M, New Zealand. I’m an optometrist and I’m pretty sure I found this via a search on ocular melanomas, but I was also busily gobbling the red pill at the time too so it could have been via vivalamanosphere. I comment occasionally.
Quite the worldwide readership.
It’s quite the coincidence that both ocular melanoma and the Manosphere brought you to my blog.
By the way, if you donate, I might apply some of that money to a spiffy prosthetic eye!
50
Male
Western Canada
Through Rollo’s comment section
2 divorces with all the trimmings. Latched onto Manosphere like water in the desert. Forgiven myself/parents/society/church, rebuilding.
That reminds me, I need to be commenting on Rollo’s blog more often.
22, Male, Germany
if I remember correctly, I stumbled upon your Blog because it was mentioned in a newsletter Mail from Maverick Traveler.
I’m 22 and in a LTR with the girl I’m going to marry, so I’m interested more generally in the human psychology of attraction, social dynamics, and male-female relationships. Your writings (and video podcasts) are extremely well thought and grounded. I extremely appreciate your perspective!
Regarding LTR Game I complement your writings with Athol Kay, regarding travel & business I complement with Maverick Traveler, and regarding female psychology with Rollo Tomassi.
Andrew, you put out really great stuff. Keep it up! You rock!
I’m glad you’re learning so much before you tie the knot. And thanks for the compliment!
Male
49
UK
Recommendation in a comment on another blog, can’t remember where.
Really enjoy your perspective.
I think my international readership equals my American readership.
51, Male, Dallas
From another blog. Probably Rational Male or Capt Capitalism.
Keep up the good work.
Many thanks. Don’t forget the Donate button. It really does help keep my thinking, dating, and writing.
I’m 46, female, and in PA.
I don’t recall the first time I ever laid eyes on your blog, but I’m always feeling like I want more and more of it ;). Your recent venture into podcasting has been a good move, and I have many A-ha moments as I watch. I appreciate that we share an interest in relationship dynamics and enjoy your observations.
Another female reader, cool.
I do hope my video podcasts become very popular.
60, Male, Ontario,Canada. Found your site via a link sent from a friend on a private Mid life Crisis forum. Been rebuilding my life since 2011 when my 24 year marriage suddenly imploded, leaving me in the unusual position of being a single dad with two teen aged kids full time. I blog about the experince of rebuilding one’s life on menversion3.com
Blogging is a very creative and cathartic. I wish you well and will make a point to read your blog.
46 male, Victoria, Australia. Found site through ivalamanosphere.com
Recently seperated after a long and useless marriage, started to incorporate RP thinking and action into my life yielding some interesting results, mostly positive, but also heartache (still can’t avoid oneitis! but not all women are equal!). Wish I had known about it in my 20’s. Will definitely educate my son about it
Aussies everywhere! It’s good that you are going to educate your son about Red Pill wisdom. That’s encouraging.
23
Female
Ontario, Canada
Probably from another blog. My red pill education started with MMSL then branched here and to Ian Ironwood and other blogs. I don’t read here much anymore but do still see updates through my RSS feed.
Thanks so much for reading my blog! I hope you’re sharing this information with your female friends. Of course, they’ll hate it.
50+ white male, florida, usa, living the dream. found through “delusiondamage” a must read for every male.
Hey, a Floridian! I’ll probably have the Spring Break meetup. Stay tuned for updates.
45, male, Chicago
Got here in my post-D research several years ago. probably linked from another blog or saw a comment you made.
I read you off my RSS feed.
Post divorce research, good idea.
And thanks.
55
M
Zukinoomin on ADVRider.com
Winter Springs FL
I think it was a link to your blog posted on ADVRider.
We first met either at Ribtoberfest or Bike Week at The Scrub.
At that time, I was in a decades-long marriage.
Not any more, unfortunately…
The Scrub is a cool moto event. I do hope that he’s still doing those and maybe I’ll get to attend another one at some point..
Alan no longer owns The Scrub but he has been working on the “Camp Pavilion” at The Scrub, maybe there’ll be a similar event in the future.
Mark, Italy (South), male, 44
I discovered your blog listening to the Goldmund interview.
Really like your no nonsense approach especially for the not younger ones like myself.
I like very much your dating advices. I am in that process now from a few years. I’m afraid though that too much is determined from where you live, who you are able to meet around, therefore I try to use your advices adapting them to the circumstances, which in the city wìhere I live do not offer much. But I really appreciate the mature spirit of your advices.
Keep up the excellent job
Another person in Italy. I’m amazed. I really enjoyed that interview. Goldmund is a cool cat.
57, Male, Vancouver Canada
Not sure how I found you. I used to follow lots of Red Pill writers; but I’ve unfollowed all but IM, RM, and you. I’m University educated, affluent, traveled, and fit; but only of average attractiveness. I see a very low probability in the dating game, so I’m not actively pursuing. I follow to keep in touch with current social trends.
Keep up the great writing!
You might yourself in the dating market again. If so you’ll be quite prepared.
Also, please consider a donation to keep me going. Many thanks.
55, Female, Texas. Probably googled what men want in desperation and after searching through a lot of crap came across your blog. I often times don’t like what you write but it is always interesting and you make me think so I remain open and I keep reading, I mean lurking. Plus I’m a fan of Evan and you have mentioned him a time or two.
Many women have a hard time with what I write. But I stand by my words. Thanks for reading.
45 Male Florida
Found you through RedPillRoom.
I am 45 and married (happily) 23 years. However, I like your advice, and it really applies to all men, single and married. Things are a little different for the married man, but not much. Your posts can usually be applied to both.
Another Floridian, sweet. I’m glad you like my blog. I checked out your blog. You’re doing well and keeping at it. That’s tough, I know.
48 male brevard county Florida
Don’t recall how I found you, rollo maybe….
Yet another Floridian… this makes a meetup almost mandatory for me.
66 widower married 43 years. Wife died nearly three years ago. I met the love of my life (yeah- oneitis) a few months later. She dumped me last April for no apparent reason. I’m guessing too much beta behaviour. (Decades of marriage changes a man. “Yes, Dear” is always easier than defending one’s opinion. They wear you down.)
Right now, I’m trying to get into the dating game again. I’m still very fit from a lifetime of weight training and physical labor, but Alpha behavior still feels like a pose and requires constant self awareness.
Small available dating pool here in Northern Michigan; all married already, impossibly young, or most often, impossibly old.
I followed the links to you. I’m surprised at the ages here. I thought I was hanging out with kids.
It’s good that you’re getting back into dating. It sucks that your geography and demographics make it difficult.
The thing about post-divorce men is that they seek help almost clandestinely. I can’t do the necessary analytics to get a definitive demographic sense of my readers. This is why a sometimes ask the lurkers to chime in.
male
28
kenya
from Rollo
Africa. I am astounded. Thanks!
47, male, Uganda
Can’t remember how I got here….probably linked from another RP site.
OK, another reader from Africa commenting just a few minutes after the reader from Kenya?
Mind.
Blown.
1. 27
2. male
3. Czech Republic
4. randomly from some other RP/manosphere blog, probably The Rational Male or Free Northerner
I’m 66 and male, living in southern Wisconsin and I found this site with a search engine. I started read Rational Male and took things from there. It’s too late for me to change my situation but reading this type of site has answered some of the questionable things I have been noticing over the past 50 years. Becoming aware has been a bitter experience but if I can help my son or any younger man navigate the treacherous landscape we men find ourselves in my awakening might be worth it.
35, Male, Chattanooga. Link from Dalrock, I think. I also read Chateau Heartiste, Alpha Game, and Return of the Kings. Never married.
I’m 41, going through a divorce. Located near ATL, found the blog via Athol’s blog.
26 Male vancouver BC. Probably found you through TRP or twitter or a blogger’s recommendation.
I”ll start commenting now
43 Male Cincinnati, Oh – various manosphere blogs- love your work, divorced at 40 and got back out there only to discover my blue pill ways just lead to more of the same as to what I got in my marriage – kinda hit the wall with even trying to date anymore just improving myself and working on my goals – however the loneliness is a killer when everyone you know is still married
Male, 51, Scotland! Found via Roosh V’s ROK site. Single and Aspergic; “high functioning” allegedly. Never been married. Several short term relationships since my twenties. Would prefer free sex if possible. Withdrawn, introverted but not so bitter anymore! I do not attend social gatherings. I like this blog, it’s more reasoned and mature compared to ROK. I’ll probably never attempt to practice Game.
52 Male Kentucky
I posted a bit here several years ago. Broke up from my gf of 5 years, not sure I want to even bother dating any more. But Ill drop by occassionally to read….
30, male, Milwaukee, WI
I found your blog in discovery of the Manosphere at large. I don’t remember who I followed a link from – maybe Rational Male?
27
Male
Chicago, IL
Probably through TRM
Probably will start commenting after I’ve consumed most of your articles
Keep up the good work 😉
54 year old male in western Canada.
Bounced here from other red pill blogs, not sure which, although I mainly follow Ian Ironwood, Rollo Tomassi, Heartiste. Used to also enjoy The Spearhead, who seems have packed it in, and Married Man sex life, who had an interesting “captain-first mate” model but now is more interested in selling his counselling rather than blogging.
I started out fairly “alpha” as a young man but got married and 22 years of marriage sucked much of that out of me. She was a borderline personality that got crazier and crazier as life went on. Finally escaped with my skin and some of my sanity. Started trying to figure out what the hell happened and was fed the red pill from a number of wise men, yourself included. It is still a bitter taste, but the truths contained become more evident the deeper down the rabbit hole you go.
After 5 or 6 years of recovery I have started another LTR. I am enjoying it and I love her, but I often grieve my lost innocence, knowing I will forever see the world through a red pill lens.
Although I don’t do any dating or trolling for women, I still enjoy your blog for its insights and wisdom on male/female interactions and relationships.
Good luck to you and keep up the good work.
1. 36
2. Male
3. Ireland
4. When I was putting together a list of the most popular manosphere blogs (http://manospherebestof.blogspot.com/2015/08/list-of-top-manosphere-blogs-by-alexa.html)
1. 44
2. Male
3. South Africa
4. Actively searching for male focused websites
1. 34 (wish I had read your blog earlier in my life, even if I learned on my own the same knowledge you share here, it would have allowed me to have a better life faster).
2. Male (by that point, you must have guessed it though)
3. Wold traveler, but I’m from France (reading you from Singapore)
4. I don’t remember, I think ever I found you in a comment from another similar site, or I was doing a stupid search on google.
Anyway, a bit late to the party, hope you are doing well and best wishes.
Regards
J.
Found your blog via stef molyneux. ….it rocks!
You sound like a total dude. Wish I’d found you earlier.
Sorry to hear about your big C. But you’re handling it like a boss. Massive respect.