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Dating 2.0 And Baby Boomers

Younger people have done a very good job of adopting the positive and negative elements of Dating 2.0. When a young woman or man fires off some clever texts (or sexts) even while dancing with someone else, that’s an example of that Dating 2.0 adoption. Actually, young people invented Dating 2.0 by using technology created by that consumate Baby Boomer, Steve Jobs.

Baby Boomers (those born ‘twixt 1946 and 1963 or so) are not adjusting to Dating 2.0 particularly well. This is understandable because when these folks entered the dating scene, the expectations of Dating 1.5 were in full force. As well, AIDs and herpes in the 1980s were helping to dial back some of the promiscuity from the 1970s and this impacted the dating behaviors for younger of Baby Boomers.

When the newly single boomers enter a dating marketing re-engineered by younger people, there’s lots of initial failure. There are some patterns to the failures:

  • Men who over-share prior to initial dates.
  • Women who don’t understand they must offer what men actually want.
  • Men who are far too casual about their dates.
  • Women who insist that being Strong and Independent® is what men desire.
  • Men who actually believe that Strong and Independent® women are the zenith of female attractiveness.
  • Men and women alike who are simply not ready for dating.

This list contains a relatively small number of examples and shares of boomer dating between both genders equally. The biggest failures of baby boomer are because of too many decades of exposure to politically correct social expectations.

It’s so very difficult to cast away social expectations related to attraction and dating. But boomers must realize what dating approaches worked prior to first marriges doe not necessarily work in modern times. “Yeah, but I met my first spouse that way.” My response is always “So, how’s that working for you now?”

There are a lot of cringeworthy things to read about baby boomers doing the attraction and dating thing. But reading such things is neither encouraging nor productive. Successful dating coaches usually have great blogs but they tend to spend too many words on marketing. Well, their job is to provide paid advice. Hell, I do that on rare occasions, as well.

There is finally a wealth of much better baby boomer attraction and dating  information advice coming into the marketplace, most often through the Internet marketplace. Baby boomers should be reading it.

[Note: I’m still in the damned hospital]

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