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Lurkers Of The World, Unite!

I did this exercise last year and it was quite successful. I’m going to up the stakes. I want 100 new commenters. You don’t have to say anything except the following:

1. Age
2. Gender
3. Location
4. How you found my blog

If you want to give compliments to my blog, I won’t say no. If you have suggestions, speak up. If you think I’m just an old windbag, get off my lawn. If you’re a hater, your comment won’t make it through moderation.

Until I get 100 new commenters, this post stays up. You regulars, stay out of this. This is between me and my lurkers.

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323 thoughts on “Lurkers Of The World, Unite!

  1. 36, female, Seattle, linked from University of Man.

  2. Early fifties.
    Midwestern USA.
    Found through Delusion Damage, now on my blogroll.


  3. mabrothrax on said:

    32 year old male from the UK, south east coast. Was googling for perspectives on OKC.

  4. 36
    I sport the wang and sac.
    Los Angeles
    I think through Bronan the Barbarian, probably.

  5. Old Glory on said:

    28 years old
    Washington, D.C.
    Linked from Dalrock

  6. 41, Male, Chicago
    Found thru linkage from another blog (been awhile, not sure which)
    Single again after my wife decided she was not haaaaaappppy, so this blog has been an eye opener!

  7. 30
    I think I found it from Badgerhuts blogroll.

  8. late twenties;
    some other manosphere blogger retweeted you.

  9. 32
    Delusion Damage

  10. Devilsclarinet on said:

    Capital Region, New York
    University of Man (RIP)

  11. 60
    The U of M did indeed perish

  12. 19, male, Germany, linked from University of Man i think.

  13. 45
    some guy’s blogroll, forgot

  14. 32
    Kansas City

  15. 28, male, Ontario.
    It was a manosphere blogger. Dalrock probably, but don’t quote me.

  16. I’ve linked so not sure I count, but I’m 36, my parents were blessed with a masculine child, I live in Arkansas, and I think I first read you via Hawaiian Libertarian’s blogroll. Bonus answer: I think we should call you Blue a la “Old School.”

  17. 26 male alaska probably found this blog through roissy.

  18. 36, M, Europe. Like many other I don’t remember how I found you.

  19. 27, male, UK, found the link on RVF

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  21. Good Luck Chuck on said:

    41, male, Central Florida, friend of Rollo T

    If I had more time to comment on most of the blogs I read this wouldn’t be my first post.

  22. Seedless on said:

    Los Angeles
    Can’t remember… Bronan, or D&P, or AP or one of em’

    Been following a bunch of manosphere blogs recently, trying to keep up with new posts, and work my way back through the archives. I’ve been more focused on day game recently and have found some good advice in your articles, such as doing errands alone. I always have better results rolling dolo.

    As a few of these guys, U of Man, Alpha Persona, etc., are falling off, it’d be nice to see someone pick up the slack in the areas they would cover. It’s nice to have various resources from health, to sociology, women, communication, travel… Helps to become more rounded and not just a pick-up scam artist.


  23. west_coast on said:

    Vancouver, Canada
    linked through another blog (can’t recall which)

  24. Isaac Jordan on said:


    It’s been too long for me to remember. I started out reading Roissy/Roosh/Rollo about a year and a half ago, and just began following the guys whose comments I found enjoyable or insightful. I’ve generally lurked up until now, simply because when I first found this little corner of the Internet, I didn’t really have much value to add to the conversation. Everyone I follow is so much wiser/more experienced. I still feel like a rookie, but I’ll try to better about throwing my two cents out there, even if it’s just to agree with something or express my gratitude for a certain post.

  25. A lady never divulges her age……ok so I am 31. I am a little further away…Leicestershire, England. I came across you, so to speak, from a comment I made on Tao of Dirt about motorcycles! And I am now a secret addict and intruder on the ‘manosphere’! I look forward to your posts! Insightful and funny. Always something to be learned. Thankyou!

  26. Bluefire on said:

    Probably through dalrock almost a year ago.

  27. 42 Male N Fl linked from Red Pill Room

  28. 36, Male, Fort Worth Texas. Found you through U of Man

  29. 26 years old
    South Brazil (mid-west of Santa Catarina) [*]
    Found the blog through the manosphere and related blogs, maybe HUS.

    [*] You should visit here. In Brazil, the southern you go, the prettier [and white] ladies are.

  30. 52, Female, Las Vegas, Through another blog,,I am mostly smiling through your musing and thoughts put to words, i,e, Shopping alone, and flirting at the Dr’s office. I would say the most prominent sensation I get from reading your blog is that you genuinely enjoy it .

  31. 56,Male,Cheshire(England) Through Dalrock’s blog,i think.

  32. thayer on said:

    Rural flyover country
    I honestly don’t remember.

  33. Changed Man on said:

    52 yo
    Chicago Suburb
    Found from blog roll of other manosphere sites. Recently took the red pill, trying to save my marriage, unfortunately too late. Good news is I’ve made excellent progress in becoming my ‘best version of me’ and will be well positioned when I’m ready to put myself out there again. I read your blog regularly and find your perspectives very useful. Keep it up!

  34. BrianJ on said:

    Southern Ontario
    In Mala Fide

    • More Canadians, I love it!

      • Well, if that’s the case, looks like I have to contribute something with more substance. I have a couple of bad online dating profiles I have saved somewhere. It’s from Lavalife which is really popular in Canada. I was going to start a blog a few years ago about this topic but never got around to it. I’ll post some later.
        I think in the not too distant future, you should conduct a survey for the TOP 10 WORST DATING PROFILES. There quite a selection.

  35. Boisfeuras on said:

    44, male, SF Bay Area, link from Delusion Damage

  36. Mohsin on said:

    24, Pakistan, Male, While lurking duh!
    Keep up the good work

  37. VooDooMan on said:

    56 male Louisiana I honestly don’t remember how I ran across your blog

    Have found it very interesting emerging from an extremely ugly divorce

    You’ve opened my eyes on a lot of things

  38. 24
    Through the manosphere

  39. 1: 21
    2: Male
    3: Finland
    4: The Rational Male blog

    • I have read that Finland has a growing men’s rights movement. Is this true?

      • I am not sure about the movement, but Henry Laasanen blogs a lot about sexual marketplace and men’s rights. He is skilled at writing provocative essays, and some of his articles have gained a lot of popularity.

        I think that his contribution has made these “heretic” ideas about SMP and sexual equality more well known, but I’m not aware of any large movements yet. 🙂

  40. VooDooMan on said:


    I get the general gist of what is meant, but can you tell me specifically what “taking the red pill” means?

  41. Shameful on said:

    SLC Utah
    Off link of UMan, gone but not forgotten.

      • Shameful on said:

        Nope, though LDS guys need game. Moved out here recently, but before finding the red pill. Came for the jobs, lot of work here in IT. Hell several of my friends ended up following me. It’s not a bad place, but I randomly catch flak from coworkers about not being married and I routinely about my age as it’s getting “weird”. Few of the drawbacks are the young marriage age of lot of girls, LDS girls tend to get plump (blame baking), and the bar booze rules. Even pre red pill would try my game at uni bars which basically don’t exist here due to zoning laws.

        Though LDS guys are so nice they don’t really provide any competition, but as a favor to a friend I’m not actively trying to defile LDS girls.

  42. Mid 20s
    You linked to mine!

  43. Haha yousowould. Click on the video on this post to see what I think of you.

  44. 1. 26
    2. male
    3. Wisconsin
    4. no idea, check the usual suspects

  45. thatbengaliguy on said:

    Dhaka, Bangladesh

    Through Chateau Heartiste I think, 7-8 months ago. Witnessing Blue Pill savagery among the family ranks. What must my ancestors be thinking now if they see things now…

  46. Turned 18 today.

  47. Clarkson on said:

    Via Roissy

  48. Don’t consider myself a regular comment so here goes.


    I honest can’t remember exactly how I found you – probably through linkage from the manosphere (In Mala Fide or something similar).

    I like your blog and want to see more posts about online game – my current university situation doesn’t allow me any other options at the moment.

  49. Jocassee on said:

    25, Male, Upstate SC

    Found you linked from a post about a firearms trainer that Tam at

  50. 46
    Ontario, Canada

    • You found me through PoF?! Can you explain?

      • I looked at a guy’s profile on Plenty of Fish, I thought it was yours but maybe rather one of your disciples or admirers?? and there was a link to one of your posts at the bottom. Being a curious female, I followed and was more than pleased to find insightful information about men. I changed my online dating profile based on some of that information but it’s still work in progress…

      • I don’t have any links on my online dating profiles so it must have been one of my readers and good for him. It’s even better that you followed the link and came across the Manosphere. You should tell all your friends about it.

  51. 23
    Cambridge, Mass.
    Some random blog roll.

  52. Lurker X on said:

    SF Bay Area
    I came here via a link from Rational Male or Badgerhut, IIRC.

    Loving the blog, sir. Thanks for letting us hang out on your lawn. 🙂

    • Get off my lawn! Yeah, I had to say that. The irony here is that I don’t actually have a lawn.

      • Hamster Tamer on said:

        Lulz… until a week ago, he could envy my large former lawn, now weeds and brambles. I didn’t have to tell peeps to get off it–it looked dangerous and is–a real ankle-breaker.

        But every over-40 mon needs a metaphorical lawn, “territory” to “mark” and “defend”, a DMZ of orneriness to keep the “kids” at bay. ;^)

  53. Robin Lee fuson on said:

    NW Oregon
    was searching for help on translating womens profiles & came across your Awful Profiles Page and have been coming back ever since. Thanks for all your efforts.

  54. CanIUseAnyNameILike? on said:

    20, male, Scotland. I found your blog either through MMSL or UoM. It’s a good enough blog. Needs more satire in my opinion. Keep writing.

    • “Good enough”?! Hey, I’ll take whatever good words my commenters can dish out. I did satire on another website well over a decade ago. Try Bronan the Barbarian for some good satire.

  55. Reblogged this on Scar Tissue and commented:
    I saw this post on The Private Man’s blog and and how successful it was – and I grew curious.

  56. 45, male, se michigan, link from hawaiian libertarian

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  58. weeeblo on said:

    Denver CO
    Either awful profiles or another manosphere blogroll – I don’t remember

  59. RufusT on said:

    60male…..Oregon……..Got three sisters who decided they weren’t happppppy & ditched good hard workin men…..15 yrs ago my wife discovered internet porn & decided gangbangs looked like fun..We divorced…She’s been with a kinky bunch ever since…..ain’t life grand…..Found this site via link from somewhere…..

  60. anaïs on said:

    40, female, UK, I think Google after my husband went EPL on me.

  61. 27
    Delusion Damage, I think.

    I’ve always liked different perspectives on the game, and not enough men your age write on these topics. Makes it a little tougher to get at wisdom when those who have it don’t share it. Anyway, I make many trips to FL, mostly Ft. Lauderdale area, and would be interested in anything you do down there.

    • There are some younger guys who do blog about Manosphere topics, check my blog roll. The next time you get down here (and away from that awful winter weather up there) drop me an email and I’ll get you to one of my upcoming classes.

  62. MattyLight on said:

    Linked from Rollo
    -I do want to confirm that everything you say about South Florida is on point.

  63. yousowould on said:

    31, male, London, UMan via Roosh

  64. 26, male, Virginia, Via Roosh probably. Like the blog, PUA/Manosphere is rank with cynicism and scorn, you waft it around it less than most.

  65. First Mate on said:

    60, Female, Upper Midwest, The Red Pill Room. In a 30+ year Marriage as a First Mate to my Alpha Wolf, and I work hard to stay blonde, slim and cute. I found the man-o-sphere because I’m a researcher and I just couldn’t figure out all the women in sexless marriages, the plethora of college educated unwed mothers and fathers who are gaming each other, and the younger generation tanned bellied cock hoppers. Now I get it. Thanks for your great blog.

  66. 32. M, New York. don’t remember – I think reddit/MR

  67. Tosser on said:

    Late 20’s, male, Colorado. Not sure how I found this place, either Roissy or Vox.

  68. 21
    Found it after Heartiste.

  69. 1. 26
    2. Male
    3. Seattle
    4. Probably HUS, actually

  70. 39, Female
    Saskatchewan, Canada
    Found you through a Google search – was looking for blogs/articles on dating over 35, as I am reentering dating world after a long hiatus.
    Enjoy your blog – always look forward to reading a new post.


  71. Chruznic on said:

    1. 21
    2. Male
    3. Norway
    4. I do not remember. there was several blogs linking to you.

  72. 24, Male
    London England
    I don’t know how I found you but I’d say it’s a good bet I found you through the Evil Patriarchy Twitter thing. I’ve started my own blog. It’s in a lull at the moment but I’m just new in the game and trying to succeed and wanted to write about everything along the way.

    cheers to you and your ugly dog.

  73. Daniel on said:

    Geraldton, WA
    Followed the yellow brick road.

  74. Long time lurker on said:

    48; female; Los Angeles

    I’ve been lurking since your inception but can’t quite recall where from. Have found your posts right on point for both men and women. Still thinking of what to write for my online profile (when I get back online); you can be sure that your suggestions will be closely followed 🙂

  75. 52
    San Diego,Ca
    Googled “Manosphere”and this among many other things poped up.Glad I did.Didn’t think a man my age could change so much in a year.Thanks to you and a few others I’m a happier free’er man.If I’m ever in your part of Florida will email you .Drinks on me!

  76. 39, Male, Chicago, referred by twitter, red pill sites. Keep on bloggin’.

  77. 50
    PCB, FL
    I’m not sure how I found you, but I’m glad I did.

  78. Peter Phoenix on said:

    New Zealand, in the US on a 1 year work visa, thinking about moving to Austin.
    Manosphere linkage

    I’m on your lawn old man!!

  79. 1. 41
    2. Male
    3. Wellington, New Zealand
    4. link from another blog (probably UoMan/D&P/Dalrock/Roosh/The Red Pill Room/MMSL/? – I’m gradually getting my head around the various writing styles out there and have forgotten how I discovered most of these blogs or even which one I discovered first)

  80. 16
    Land of hipsters ‘n hippies

    I first saw you wandering around in front of the nursing home wearing nothing but a pair of kleenex boxes as slippers and a pillowcase as a makeshift loin cloth. You were shaking your bedpan at the sky and yelling something about “stay offa my lawn.” I was the dude who shot you up with thorazine while the other orderlies hog tied you and tossed you in the back of the ambulance. Cool that you have a blog now!

  81. jimijonjam on said:

    Hey, my names Jimi, reporting live from Australia. 21 years old, found your blog through The University of Man. Your writing is informative and quite neutral in tone, which I appreciate. L

    • Many thanks. Some Manosphere bloggers are quite strong with their words. I respect that and there’s a place for that. But I think that my more measured words and phrases have an equal appeal.

      • jimijonjam on said:

        Quite right. Some proverb states roughly “you win more people over with soft words than with vitriol.” notice next time you hear somebody counter an argument without swearing, raising their voice or insults, and notice how much more effective they are. Softly softly, we men shall rise once again.
        Keep up the good work. It’s pretty bad here in Australia. Hooded jumpers, short nails and flip flops (“thongs”) everywhere!

  82. Random Angeleno on said:

    I’ve commented but sparsely here, may as well say it:

    Los Angeles (need to hit on ‘long time lurker’. can she dance salsa?)
    friend who pointed me to roissy way back when gave me your site too. He’s a real lurker, I’ll let him give himself away…

  83. Lightning Charge on said:

    the west
    I don’t recall how I found your site, but you are how I found the rest of the manosphere…

  84. The Fucking Writer on said:

    Bible Belt
    Not a lurker, but I truly don’t care. I’ll take a shit on your lawn if I want. Found you through the Manosphere. It’s been a blast!

  85. Red Pill on said:

    Vancouver, BC
    Somebody’s blogroll, not sure who

    New to ‘manosphere’, old to ‘red pill’…

  86. Clemens on said:

    Zurich / Switzerland (native language being German).
    Probably through Athol’s or someone else’s blog roll.

    DAILY reader (and lurker) of your blog!
    Keep it up, dude!

    • Quite the large international readership I have. Since you read daily, does this mean I have to post daily? Yikes, that’s a lot of blog posts!

      • Clemens on said:

        I keep on checking daily and enjoy every new post 🙂 They give me a boost and new ideas in order to maintain that resistance against all those feminist manjaw wymynz and manginas around me.

        What’s nice about your blog is the usual shortness and straight-to-the-point character of your posts.

  87. 41
    from Roosh’s site somehow

  88. 23; Female; Vancouver; and I can’t remember how I found you. It was probably just through browsing random blogs.

  89. Roland3337 on said:

    48, male, Pennsylvania, and I do not recall. I’ve been reading for probably a year, and it has been a red pill source since that time.

  90. 27
    Moscow, Russia
    Ian Ironwood’s blog

  91. Jayzhere on said:


    Linked through from somewhere else, don’t remember but likely UMan, Rational Male or some such.

  92. Rodeo42 on said:

    Link probably from rollo or u of man which I dearly miss.

  93. Rafael on said:

    Blumenau – Brasil

  94. Bolkie on said:

    Rotterdam, the Netherlands
    Can’t really remember, probably via either Chateau or Rational Male

  95. Before the Deluge on said:

    46, Male, Irish expat in Southern Spain

    Discovered Chateau Heartiste about 6 months ago and have now assembled a roster of Manosphere blogs that I check regularly, your good self included. It’s always good to get different perspectives. I like yours because you sound about my age and with a similar personality type (quietly confident, f’ckd if you’re going to be anyone’s dancing monkey)

    You and a few others prove what I knew already, you do not need to be super extrovert to swoop. Quiet confidence, frame and attitude are what counts. I kinda, sorta internalised this over the years, but it’s always good to see it laid out in black and white, which helps to crystalise it.

    Keep up the good work.

  96. slakbarsted on said:

    36, Male, Sydney, AU
    Discovered you through the manosphere and very grateful to have discovered it!!

  97. infowarrior1 on said:

    18, Male, Sydney Australia

    Through the blog of elusive wapiti

  98. Gregarious Wolf on said:

    41 year old male from Houston. The red pill was bitter going down after my divorce. I think I found Rooshv first. It is deepest in my bookmarks. From there…

  99. maestro on said:

    55, male, Yorks, UK, link from MMSL.

  100. 3MM are all in their twenties, male and in Europe/USA. Found you through the Manosphere more broadly, can’t remember which blog! Keep the great posts coming!

  101. 41
    Johannesburg, South Africa
    Cannot recall how I ended up here, probably through Danny504, Red Pill Room or UMan.
    Although married I find it helpful to read about Game from various perspectives, its gives one a better..well…perspective.

  102. Male, 28
    Boston Area
    From Hawaiian libertarian.

    Recently introduced to manosphere. Please keep up the good work.

  103. Anonymous on said:

    49 yr. old female and her 21yr. old daughter from N. Carolina, we found you through other blogs.
    I took what is now known as the “red pill” over ten years ago. When my daughter wanted to better understand the current male perspective and why she isn’t meeting the type of man/men she is looking for, one like her father, we went looking for answers.
    You site has been helpful for her. Thanks.

    • The most hopeful comment yet… thanks so much.

      • Anonymous on said:

        No, thank you. Your blog is helpful and we haven’t been treated harshly when we dare ask a question, unlike some sites, one in which I was really surprised at the attitude I encountered considering the poignant header. The anger turned my daughter off for a while, but drove me to find out what was behind it so I started searching. Allow me to tell you and your gentlemen readers out there that all is not lost on American women. Some are getting it, look for them and reward their good behavior.
        I think intutitively young women are starting to wake up and realise the teachings of the previous genereation were false and while I can not see us returning to the days of pre-feminism, I do see the Manosphere hearlding a time of accountablity for women that will change their current mode of thinking because in the end hetro women innately want to be in a relationship with men and will do what is required to be done to make that happen. Remember you hold the keys gentlmen, now jingle them where the ladies can see and hear them.
        Everytime you get a chance to expouse red pill wisdom do. I do, sometimes it has to be ever so subtle as I live in a very liberal town and have to be careful. My daughter does in her actions and words at college and has seen two of her five roommates change for the better. I hope your readers will do the same. Change is coming but it is slow as always.
        Privateman keep being a voice of change.

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  105. 22
    North Alabama
    No clue, probably through Roissy/Roosh/VK/D&P. This quickly turned into one of my regular reads, though

  106. Emma the Emo on said:

    24, female, Oslo (Norway). Found your blog through many other blogs, then re-found it through M3’s blog 😉 Not a big lurker here, but an occasional lurker nontheless.

  107. Michael on said:

    45, Male, central Canada
    Found thru MMSL.
    Wife decided she was not haaaaaappppy (for no apparent reason), started talking divorce. I started looking for answers. I found the Manosphere and took the Red Pill. It helped. I’m not sure if it was in time to save my marriage or not, I’m not sure I care. Apparently, everything I was told about women in my youth was a lie. Thank you and the Manosphere for the education.

  108. TexasSAHM on said:

    36, Female, Houston, TX
    I first found you through MMSL, and came over today from M3’s blog to delurk.

  109. Miss Mildred on said:

    Hello, Private Man.

    41, female, Texas.

    I’ve been lurking on your blog and other red pill blogs for about 6 months. I can’t recall the specifics, but I stumbled across your blog when I began searching for dating advice for women from a male perspective. Wait – now that I’m really thinking about it, I probably linked to your site via Roissy’s.

    Your writing has been tremendously helpful to me, though at times I find your style to be a bit too cynical and acerbic. I guess that’s the point, really – taking pills isn’t supposed to be fun 😉 Your advice to women about focusing on a man’s good qualities using your women’s exercise is pure gold. I also found your online profile writing advice to be useful as well.

    Thank you for sharing your thoughts and talent with all of us.

  110. Rik Johnson on said:

    51, Male, Seattle, WA.

    I think I linke through In Mala Fide, or one of the many other manosphere blogs.

  111. Beppo Venerdì on said:

    Columbus, OH
    Found via Roissy (I think, it’s been awhile)

  112. 28, female, Indiana. About 6 months ago my husband suggested my brother start reading your blog (I think he found you through Dalrock) so I got on to see exactly what he was trying to corrupt my baby brother with, though it turns out it really was something my brother needed to read. He’s a great guy but waaaay too nice, and he dates too many entitled princesses. I found your blog entertaining and I like what you have to say so I read when I have free time.

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  114. damngringo on said:

    I think via Heartiste / Roosh / UMan or similar. Started searching for answers when my relationship gone sour (it should not have been there in the first place!)

  115. 50
    Downtown, Middle America
    I found the Manosphere through Hawaiian libertarian’s Paleo Baby post about a year ago, and it has been very enlightening. I immediately quit the shit-tests, quit nagging, grew my hair out, and adopted the “never say no” stance. I quit leading and making the decisions. I had already been mostly Paleo for over a year, so I already looked awesome 🙂

  116. cadders on said:

    Male, 47, UK, linked from Hawaiian Libertarian.

    Took the the red pill about three and half years ago and still trying deal with the realisation that the first 19 years of my marriage could have been as good as the last – for both me and my wife.

  117. fearthereaper on said:

    Haifa Israel
    Jack Donovan’s blog

  118. aggysbrew on said:

    28, female, Kenya. I found my way here after a search for good profile advice. Followed the breadcrumbs and here I am. Your topics resonate even back here where most of the young guys in town are settling to be Betas and bowing to women. Its frustrating. I am from the last city-kids generation which saw our fathers lead the family. Now there’s a new breed of women in town telling us its okay to take over. It wasn’t broken, why fix it? Am spreading word of this blog to all my friends. Thank you.

  119. notafranny on said:

    Hi! I’m female, 46 years old and live in the PNW. Found your blog through moxie.

    • Clever user name you have there. And Moxie’s good people… a bit prickly on the outside, however.

      • notafranny on said:

        Thanks so much! A “franny” is a sponge-mom-sweatpants, which of course I’m not 😉 Love the blog, read all the archives and spread the wisdom of the manosphere here where things tend to be a bit backwards. I have a 22yo son and do not intend for him to get stuck in the beta/blue pill lifestyle, helllll no! He’s getting it, no more special snowflakes for him!

  120. 46 years old, male, New Zealand, came here from Chateau Heartiste. Late poster lol.

  121. Male, 43, Seattle.
    I’m the one who turned Amber onto the Manosphere.
    Not sure how I got to this blog. Probably either Roosh or UMan.
    My eyes started opening after my heart was broken.
    Weirdly, the woman who broke my heart was not my ex-wife (I was very lucky in my escape there).

  122. Lynn in DC on said:

    I think I found this blog through a search for dating and relationships. Private Man, I enjoy reading your blog. You provide much food for thought and encouraged me to take a hard look at the “entitled princess” still in me. Keep up the good work.

    PS. Your dog is a cutie. No way is she ugly.

  123. 29
    Mexico City.
    Don´t remember.

    Thanks for sharing your insights and experiences thru the internet.
    Keep the good stuff.

  124. 34, male, Pittsburgh area, can’t remember original linkage.

  125. 37
    I found your blog either linked from someone elses or maybe a comment you made somewhere…can’t remember exactly.

  126. spudgun on said:

    Man, 41, London.
    I just rode my motorbike right across your lawn. Looks like you’ve got some groundwork to do there now.
    Lurked for a year, but like the rest of my life I’m not actually sure how I got here.
    Virtual pint!

  127. rgoltn on said:

    45, Male, Nashville…found it via other manosphere blogs. Married and transforming myself after taking the “red pill.” Working on making my marriage stronger day-by-day.

  128. legalbeagle on said:

    31, Male, Birmingham, AL. Found your place via Danny. Excellent writing. I also rather like your writing style. I’m an early 30’s professional and the elder among my social circle. It’s nice to have someone that has seen a bit more of the world than I have and doesn’t feel the need to come to me for advice.

  129. JackSparrah on said:

    I’m a little late to the party, but why not.. Have been lurking for long enough.

    27, Male, Canada

    Hard to say exactly how I found you… It was so long ago now. If memory serves right, it was from one of Athol Kay’s posts that linked here. Either that, or somewhere between Chateau Heartiste, Real Assanova (do I ever miss his blog) and Badger’s Hut.

    Whatever it was, I’ve been a devoted reader ever since, and the journey has been eye-opening. So thank you!

  130. TJ – 48, Madison, WI, man

    Found thru a manosphere blog like Dalrock or someone like that. Always enjoy the read and the emphasis that women are not all evil bitchez1!1!1!11

  131. 44, Male, Nashville via Hawaiian Libertarian.

  132. 56, U.S. international development worker living overseas.

    Can’t remember how I got here, but it started when I found out my wife was cheating on me with her “first love” from 34 years ago – after 32 years of marriage. She found him on Facebook, and I went online looking for advice – first at Talking About Marriage forums.

  133. Celeste on said:

    23, Female, US, found you through either Roissy or Dalrock, I found them thru feminist blogs, was immediately repulsed by Roissy, but slowly came around to the red pill side

  134. 26
    Twitter manosphere

  135. 40-ish, Male, Redmond, WA.

    A link of off Captain Capitalism. Researching gender relationships and their impact to economic systems for a novel.

  136. 26, Male, St. Louis, One night googling manosphere topics.

  137. 28, Male, Baltimore.
    Probably through when I opened the floodgates on the Manosphere after spending a few months reading Roissy. Maybe through Dalrock or someone like that.

  138. Far from a lurker but I’ll give some info, regardless:

    1} 40

    2} Male

    3} Philadelphia

    4} Long ago by Roissy→Roosh→you

  139. Early 50s, M, South FL

    Don’t remember how I found your blog.

    I read mainly CH, which is brilliant if a bit too cynical and groupthink prone. I read your blog because you are close to my age, live in my area and have thoughtful online-dating suggestions.

    A South FL meetup sounds like fun.

  140. 44, Male, Southern AZ

  141. lurkmcgurk on said:

    Let me try this one more time.
    Male, 34, Bronx
    From no-maam’s blog links

  142. 35, Male, Boston, RM blogroll
    thank you PM

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  144. Five-oh.

    Washington DC


    I found you, Badger, Dalrock, Athol, Ian Ironwood and the late lamented Ferd and UMan after a happenstance look at an article about Manosphere blogs set me googling to see if you all had any answer to the question of why so many relationships (like mine) are so totally unsatisfactory.

  145. 29, male, Porto Alegre – Brazil

    I did post some comments before, but just a few… I consider myself a lurker. Most of the times, when I think of posting something, someone already posted similar thoughts… as I am lazy, then I just don’t do it. 🙂

    Found you after a friend had some relationship problems and I ended up in a “hardcore” MRM (if they could be really called that) forum… I could see that they had something going on, I could fell the “truth” behind it, but they were too blinded by rage to see it.

    After that, searching lead me to MMSL, Badger, Ian, and yourself. It is amazing how the red pill changes your view about almost everything around. I am engaged to a very good woman right now, but I do sometimes feel like I could have enjoyed my single life a lot better had I found this knowledge before I entered this relationship…. I was a very shy young man that doubted of his own skills and “handsomeness” too much, even while inserted into a context where I had a lot of advantage. Pretty dumb, right? I expected to teach all this to my future son (if I ever have one) while he can still enjoy it. Right now, I am using all the insights I find in the manosphere to improve my current relationship.

    Anyway, your blog is one that I can send to blue pill friends safely, without being afraid to scare ’em off. Keep up the good work, thank you.

  146. 18, F, The Universe,

    Definitely found your blog through HUS 🙂 Keep up the good work, PM. Thanks for all the advice.

  147. Cesar MDRD on said:

    24. Male from Mexico City. Through Bronan’s Twitter account about 3 months ago.

  148. Shinzaemon on said:

    Yo Private Man,
    38yr old Bitter Divorced Guy over here. I live around D. C. Any chance you D.C. Players want to meet? My friends are a disgrace to the word wing man.

    I started following your blog after the insightful comments you made at Dalrock’s and HUS. You are one of the best bloggers out there. Keep up the good work, we divorced guys back in the game need it.

    Also, you replied to a email I sent you and that was truly a honor. Oh btw way when are you finishing your fucking Dating book already?

  149. kpramod on said:

    25, M, Indiana. Student. Came through

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  151. 55, Male, Northern California. Found the blog while looking up info on practicing Brazillian Jui Jitsu in Brazil. Signed up because I’m single, plan on remaining single and plan on traveling as a single. Which is something you are doing and have experience at. I am more than willing to learn from others experience’s.

  152. 25, male, Portland, OR.

    I found you through A Voice for Men, if I recall correctly.

  153. Manningup on said:

    NYC areA
    Web search re: “when a woman compliments you”(linked to your post concerning it)
    Currently devouring as many posts as possible

  154. Pam Bates on said:

    39, female, Fresno-CA, Twitter. Just started following.

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