The recent tragic events in Colorado have revealed the depths of heroic actions that a man will automatically give to women. Three men lost their lives by literally taking a bullet for their respective girlfriends. Three men are dead, their girlfriends are alive (link below). While these are extreme cases, it points to an element of female privilege that is all around us. Sometimes its manifested as chivalry, sometimes as “helping a woman out” White Knighting. But it all boils down to one word:
In non-work environments (though I have seen it in the workplace, too), men tend to defer to women. For too many guys, it’s a reflex. It’s that deference that leads men to ask “so what do you want to do?” for a first date. It’s that deference which prevents men from showing some backbone and strength when dealing with women. It’s that deference that leads men to complete heroic acts even for women who are strangers. Even smacking an offensive and vile creature like Snooki causes men to immediately jump to her defense all because she’s female and for no other reason.
Deference is all about female privilege and it’s so much assumed that even feminists guard it ferociously. Consider this juicy quote from Amanda Marcotte in a comment to a male reader (link below):
Women’s need to be safe comes first, James, Full stop.
This is her strident call for maintaining female privilege. I think this is why feminists are so threatened by men questioning this social status quo. It’s the potential loss of men’s deference to women. Of course, they will lay down a thick and barely-logical smokescreen of victimhood that, in the past, worked pretty well. Should the smokescreen prove ineffective, insults are the inevitable: “Stop whining”, “You’re just bitter”, “You can’t get laid”. No cupcake, your fear is showing.
But the men have gathered in the back and have started discussing this rotten state of social affairs for the masculine gender. We’re starting to learn that we’ve been duped, that deference to women is working against men. Be it the FriendZone®, excoriated for being NiceGuys®, and general invisibility to women, the guys who keep deferring to women are learning to knock off that bullshit. Women are indeed human beings, not automatically worthy of deferring to. As well, deferring to a woman with some magical expectation of getting something in return actually works against men. That’s the NiceGuys® crap and needs to be addressed with a healthy dose of Charisma.
Ironically, Charisma tells us that such deference actually works against a man’s effort at attracting the opposite sex. A man taking the lead and showing strength may not be about expressing deference, but it sure does make a man more attractive to women, especially the feminist types. Reflex deference to women can only be cured by the bitter medicine of the Red Pill and it takes time and effort. But when the urge to automatically defer to women finally stops, it’s sweetly liberating and rewarding.
Returning to the Colorado tragedy, The three young men did what they felt they must as the bullets flew and chaos reigned. Imagine how we would respond if three women died in the same manner protecting their boyfriends. Perhaps the mainstream media will start to see masculinity as something positive and beneficial in this world and that male deference to women can save women’s lives. One more thing, are you listening, feminists?