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On Generalizing And Stereotypes

Human reproductive behavior is remarkably predictable given consistent inputs. To not generalize or stereotype would be intellectually foolhardy and would ultimately result in epic dating and relationship fail. The rampant and stubborn political correctness of “we’re all special snowflakes” is a ruinous approach when dealing with women. For the most part, we’re not exceptions, we’re usually the rule.

“Snowflaking” is the process by which a woman treats herself as the exception, not the rule. This concept is the first cousin to Not All Women Are Like That (NAWALT). Here’s the most difficult piece of Red Pill wisdom for women (and some men): “Yes, you are like that.” The response is invariably quick and consistent with shrieks of denial, the inevitable insults, and the other emotional reactions that actually show the actual accuracy of the statement. The rationalization hamster feeds well on special snowflakes and taking away its primary diet is terrifying to women.

There are two arguments against Red Pill wisdom, neither of them work. The first is the cry of “misogynist!” That’s just ad hominem bullshit and easily ignored or deflected. The other argument against Red Pill wisdom is the cry of social unacceptability. Social acceptability is just another term for political correctness. It’s also called blue pill wisdom and it’s not working. Here’s just a summary of what blue pill wisdom has caused:

High divorce rates
Frivolous divorce
Generation Spinster
Hookup culture
Declining happiness in women
Involuntary celibacy for some men
Unhappy relationships for too many men
“Dark Game”
Combat dating
Feminized men
Masculinized women

The list can go on and on because the conventional dating and relationship “wisdom” of politically correct conventional wisdom is so awful.

A large part of the whole Red Pill experience is to understand painful truths and act accordingly based on those truths, not some pie in the sky ideals based on political correctness. I want men to fulfill their relationship goals, I don’t want to reinforce ridiculous social expectations that will only result in men being frustrated and unhappy.

Note: This post is an expansion of a comment I made in the previous blog post. That post yielded numerous excellent comments.

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20 thoughts on “On Generalizing And Stereotypes

  1. Sorry this isn’t logical. Did a woman write it? 😀
    Generalisation must include NAWALT, as the word means ‘in general’, not ‘all the time’.

    • P Ray on said:

      Nothing’s stopping you from asking him on a date Fi.
      All this stamping of feet and wittering is just prolonging the inevitable.
      Remember what I said: If you want a guy to make the first move and he doesn’t … ask him out yourself. Or be alone.
      Otherwise you can hardly blame him for moving on to something else that leaves him fulfilled.

    • DC Phil on said:

      You can ask me out, Fi, since you found me to be an interesting bloke. 😉

    • DC Phil on said:

      And is that a rigid barrier?

      • Well….it’s a long way to travel for a bit of sex. 😀

      • DC Phil on said:

        There’s always vacation time. 😉

      • After extensive discussion several pages back though we settled on a budget of 20 dollars. You can’t get to scotland on that. Can’t your female friends set you up with nice women?

      • Besides which – I really am a raddled old hag. Whereas you…..are at your peak 😀

  2. “Generation Spinster” – brilliant, I’m using that. The only way most women will care is if they’re told how it will impact them.

  3. deti on said:

    Examples of generalizations about women that are usually true, hence they have become generalizations:

    1. A woman with a high partner count will have difficulty pair bonding to one and only one man.

    2. A woman is more attracted to confident, dominant men than to wimpy, submissive men.

    3. Upon meeting a man, a woman almost immediately puts him into one of two camps:
    a. I would have sex with him.
    b. I would never, ever, ever, ever in a billion years have sex with him.

    Once a man is in camp b. with a particular woman, he never, ever gets out.

    4. Women shit test men.

    • 1 true
      2 true
      3 true
      4 not true. Unless they’re mental

      • P Ray on said:

        More NAWALT.
        No. 4 may not be always true (at the time she stops shit-testing men she is attracted to, but keeps shit-testing the men she isn’t attracted to, she has lost appeal towards men she isn’t attracted to, and hence, “suddenly finds love” with a guy she’ll later divorce).
        Men can see the signs, and don’t want to be the last one she deals with: he pays for all her previous bad relationships through a diminshed sexual experience, her age and possible conditions (mental, physical, STD).
        Why isn’t anyone asking George Clooney to date women his age 🙂

  4. P Ray on said:

    No. 4 may not be always true (at the time she stops shit-testing men she is attracted to, but keeps shit-testing the men she isn’t attracted to, she has lost appeal towards men she is attracted to, and hence, “suddenly finds love” with a guy she’ll later divorce).
    Corrected the sentence. The hamster confounds reasonable men 🙂

    • P Ray on said:

      Put a bra on! New tell-all book reveals how Mick Jagger begged his wife Bianca to cover up while John Lennon coped with bulimia

      By Kirsty Mccormack

      Last updated at 10:02 AM on 7th March 2012
      He may have worn some odd outfits on stage himself, but Mick Jagger once told his former wife Bianca to cover up.
      The Rolling Stone apparently told his first wife to put a bra on under her see-through top due to his mother coming to stay.
      The claim is just one of many in new book, BackStage Pass VIP which examines the private lives of various rock stars.
      Put a bra on! Mick Jagger and his then wife Bianca, pictured after their St Tropez wedding in 1971, modelling one of her revealing tops
      Author of the book, Debra Sharon Davis, who spent time travelling with The Rolling Stones in the 1980’s goes on to explain that Jagger’s former wife wasn’t bothered about embarrassing his mother.
      ‘Bianca refused, stormed out and Jagger was left to nervously fix a tray of tea and spread a bunch of pastries on a doily to cater to his mum.'”

      If even rock stars have problems being shit tested … maybe the next thing to ask is whether all men get shit tested because they’re not God.

  5. What exactly is “dark game”?

    • It’s Charisma (Game) used solely for seduction but with also the actual intent of making a woman feel badly for her decision to be seduced.

      • P Ray on said:

        Dark game:
        So it’s the guy ending things cruelly rather than being the “nice guy that women say they want which actually drives them away if they want him to be not-nice but they’re not going to say that”. (Sorry for the tortured logic, but that is what you deal with in many modern relationships with a woman who is after the bigger better deal but needs you around so that she has the status required to make the status jump)

        Thus giving her the idea that she wasted her time with the guy, and getting her filled with the idea of getting the next guy to pay for what the previous guy (that she chose to be with) did to/with her.

      • DC Phil on said:

        Dark Game preys on the woman’s innate attractors to men of higher-status than herself, then enables the male practitioner to dump the woman after he’s finished with her. Think, “find ’em, fuck ’em, and then forget ’em.”

        Then the woman feels like shit afterward because she was duped and believed that the guy was promising more than what he was going to deliver. Think Jedi mind tricks; the “only work on the weak-minded.” 🙂

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