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Men, Women, Food

A couple of years back I was a serious participant in the adventure motorcycling community through a website/forum where fellow adventure motorcyclists posted stories about their two-wheeled journeys. An integral part of those online posts was the obligatory photos of food consumed on the road. I always found that odd. Some guy is in the middle of an amazing road trip and he takes photos of his latest meal. It was food porn.

Now that I’m in the Manosphere, the food theme continues. In all honesty, I am not a preparer of food. I am a consumer of food and I take a very utilitarian approach. I fill my stomach with something mostly healthy and I’m done until I’m hungry again. It’s not a good approach.

Two of my Manosphere peers have upped my awareness of the masculine nature of cooking. Danny, being from New Orleans, is well steeped in the culinary arts. His blog has many posts about his kitchen adventures. He and I discussed the possibility of coordinating blog posts as he taught me the basics of kitchen gymnastics. That might still happen.

Another blogger – Chad Daring – has gone completely to the food side with his blog. He recently started The Chef In Jeans with the thoroughly logical tagline of “A Culinary Website for Men”. With recipes, tips, and a generally masculine approach, Chad is doing an outstanding job of showing men how comport themselves regarding food preparation.

In the context of Charisma, the ability for a man to cook for himself and to show mastery of something is immensely attractive to women. The kitchen is certainly not the exclusive realm of the fairer sex. A man creating an awesome and healthy meal can make a woman swoon with desire. As well, a man’s offer to cook something is a great date and the opportunity to bring a lady to his den of culinary inequity. Women love food. Hell, they talk about it constantly.

Cooking well is also an excellent opportunity for a man to work on his confidence sub-routine. Even without a damsel to impress, a man can practice good cuisine on his own and reap the resulting health benefits, too. Cooking at home is also far less expensive than dining out.

According to both Danny and Chad, cooking well is not a difficult proposition and doesn’t require a kitchen full of expensive gadgets. I certainly believe them. They show men how to make good meals without complicated and time-consuming tasks. Guys, stop ordering out, stop with the expensive and unhealthy bar food, get on board with some righteous culinary skills.


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12 thoughts on “Men, Women, Food

  1. Thanks for the linkage and the kind words. I get atleast one email or comment a week from a guy saying how he tried my recipes and couldn’t believe how it turned out. I’m so happy that I can truly help guys master a skill they might not have thought possible.

    Danny is actually working as a guest poster at CIJ now, filling in the gaps in my knowledge and building upon what I’ve already begun. I’m hoping to network with other culinarians in our little corner of the internetz and continue expanding.

    • This is the second tiime today I have read someone commenting on the Chef in Jeans blog. I’m definitely going to check it out. I have a section of my blog dedicated to food and am a professional chef. I keep intending to blog more about food, but I would rather spend my time preparing and eating it instead of writing about it.


  2. Right on!

    I recommend subscribing to Cook’s Magazine Illustrated… their writers are like a team of mad scientists, tinkering with recipes until they get the “perfect” version, and in every issue their editor writes a Garrison Keiler-esque essay about life in rural Vermont. I think it’s a very manly cooking magazine… and the recipes are usually on target. I can’t make oatmeal any other way since they published their Perfect Oatmeal recipe.

  3. LostSailor on said:

    Cuisine was ever the province of men until quite recently.

    I learned early on and was generally a better cook than my ex. Today’s brunch was pan-fried skirt steak with poached eggs and fresh spinach sauteed with shallots and white wine. It’s what’s for breakfast.

    And you’re right that inviting a woman for a home-cooked dinner, if you can do it well, is a huge DHV. And a good way to ply her with fine wine and liquor to get her in the mood. It definitely doesn’t take a lot of expensive equipment, but I would encourage getting high quality knives and learning good knife skills.

    I also do a mean gumbo…

  4. Chad’s a good egg for starting CIJ and I certainly am honored that he wants my input. I guess I’ve always had to cook so I never saw it as a big deal……

    Then I grew up. My cooking gets me laid and keeps my shell in proper shape.

    Thanks for the linkage good Sir. See you at the class.

  5. Spot on.

    I would add that, whilst you might not need much in the way of equipment to achieve great results, the better your oven, hob, pans, utensils, serving dishes, crockery and cutlery, and last, but by no means least, ingredients, the finer your culinary journey will be.

    Cooking is not rocket science, it’s cooking! Get busy in the kitchen, chaps; you know you’re worthit.

  6. just visiting on said:

    Yes, swooning with desire in you culinary den of inequity. lol. For those looking for longer term relationships, I would suggest sorting out those who don’t offer to clean up the dishes.

  7. Did a post about the relationship between masculinity and cooking on my blog today myself:

    Cooking is an outstanding way to combine both Alpha and Beta in one powerful manner. And it’s even more important in Married Game than Single Game.

  8. I take it then that you’re a fellow ADVRider member?

  9. sth_txs on said:

    I cooked for the girlfriend for our Valentine’s weekend. I grilled over a wood fire some salmon, hen, asparagus and roasted some red peppers for a sauce. Also made a desert. She told me how much she liked the meal and was very impressed that I could cook like that. Yes men, invest some effort in learning how to cook.

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