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Occupy Valentines Day

Gentlemen, the fateful day approaches. It is the day where your resolve will be tested and your wallet unnecessarily taxed. It is an awful day for men. It is a day that needs to be vanquished from the calendar and it’s name never uttered again.

As this wretched day gets closer, I will have more to say.

But in the meantime, I launch Occupy Valentines Day for the sole purpose of destroying valentines day.

I know of only one man who is actively and publicly working to boycott valentine’s day. Marc Rudov gets some solid media attention for his calls to end “nomance” day. I’m with Marc on this one.

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34 thoughts on “Occupy Valentines Day

  1. Senior Manchild on said:

    I have rarely ever spent much on Valentines day, but if I were feeling pressure, here is how I would meet that pressure.

    Yea, I would buy some good chocolates, a bottle of fine wine, maybe some cheap flowers, and thoroughly enjoy these things myself; and if there is going to be an evening out at an expensive restaurant, the most expensive part of it is going down my gullet. I would make it a day to treat myself in front of this ¨special¨ person so that she can see how much I am worth.

    Oh, and absolutely no damn jewelry.

  2. frontier1414 on said:

    I agree, under any circumstances for men, just ignore is the best policy.

    In my country, the land of still mysteriously high yen, Valentines Day is observed as a day girls married or not, suppose to confess her otherwise hidden admiration to particular guys. They are typically expected to express this with a couple of packs of chocolate. There are cascade of seriousness attached to each chocky. Some are real affection, others are “politeness only” like addressed to business associates. For more serious intention, other items like men’s glooming goods or an all costs paid restaurant date are chosen.

    To most men, how many packs of chockies or, ties, bottles of cologne is such a big deal.
    Sheer stupidity especially for the less fortunate!

    Ryozo Anemaru
    Shibari (Japanese style bondage) enthusiast

    • “men’s glooming goods”

      I realise this is a typo, but it’s a goody. Particularly given the subject of Valentine’s day, a gloomy day for a blue-pill man’s finances.

  3. Martini on said:

    What the hell is Valentine’s Day?

    Do we get a day off work?

  4. Chef In Jeans on said:

    I’m holding a candlelight vigil for all my fallen brothers in the culinary and service industry as they weather the busiest day of the year. Never forget!

    Also your lawn.

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  6. just visiting on said:

    Couldn’t we just ban selfish and entitled people from our lives instead?

    • Doesn’t work when they play a double standard of behaviour, selfish and entitled towards those they want to jerk around, reasonable and grateful to those they want to impress.
      Those that do that are very good at relational aggression and passive-aggressive behaviour, with the implied threat that “If you don’t do what I say, I’ll make sure no-one else will see you as worth being around”.
      Such people are extremely good at character assassination.

  7. flyfreshandyoung on said:

    How can I Occupy V-day if I’m occupying your lawn?

    Say no to Valentines Day! I plan on going out that night and seeing what I can get, though Roosh has warned it’s not all that it’s cracked up to be. We shall see

  8. let’s just change it to ‘bj or hooker’ day (the implied choice for your ‘beloved’ is right there in the title)(it also implies she’s not a hooker – doesn’t get much more romantic than that!)

  9. teh_skeeze on said:

    Don’t fall for the commercialized bullshit that Valentine’s Day has become.

    From Wikipedia:
    “No romantic elements are present in the original early medieval biographies of either of these martyrs. By the time a Saint Valentine became linked to romance in the 14th century, distinctions between Valentine of Rome and Valentine of Terni were utterly lost”

    If you really feel the need to do something romantic, write a poem, a song, make dinner, anything that doesn’t cost a bunch of money. Leave the chocolates and overpriced flowers to the betas. Doing so will increase your chances of knocking boots.

    • Or it may end a relationship going nowhere, which is also a good thing.
      Women can accept sentimental gifts from men they’re attracted to,
      for other men, it’s the expensive gifts that are expected.

      Valentine’s Day is apparently one of the best for scoring a rebound relationship or a one night stand.
      And not every woman with a flower/bouquet has a boyfriend: about 20% sent flowers to themselves. I’m guessing it’s to show other men that she is in demand and therefore her “price” has increased.

      • teh_skeeze on said:

        I only suggest doing something “special” for a girl you are already having sex with. I know I’m preaching to the choir when I say this, but if you are doing something romantic for a girl you haven’t been sexual with you are setting yourself up for failure.

  10. I dunno. I was reminded last week with my gf how much spending money on a woman is instinctually attractive to her and is coded in her DNA. I bought three relatively cheap meals for her (in exchange for her to help me set up a computer) and she was sweet an nurturing to e the entire weekend. Its the same as when a woman shows off her body in a sexy outfit that we want to be romantic to her.

    You cant get away from the fact that spending money on a woman is sexually attractive to her. Just try to do not so much, and not on VD day. And try to get something of value from the woman in return. In my case its dealing with computers, for most guys its sex.

  11. This is why March 14th is now known as the opposite of V-Day, or “Steak and Blowjob Day”. Seriously, we’re trying to promote March 14th as the masculine response to the feminine plea for romance.

    Because when it comes down to it, pretty much every man I know just wants a steak and a blowjob.

    And that’s . . . Okay!

  12. Good idea for a post.I’m actually gonna write my version of it soon.My bad for biting lol.I’ll give you props in the mention,so it’s all good.

  13. He gives me chocolate, I give him bourbon, we make out. That’s my idea of a good Valentine’s Day. Unless you’re dating a stripper or a narcissist, why expect any drama? (Don’t date strippers or narcissists.)

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  15. I’m probably revealing my naivete here, but I thought Valentines day was for couples to exchange gifts with each other and incorporate cheap, tacky lingerie into their sex lives.

    But then what do I know? I’m usually single. But most of my girlfriends stress over what they’re getting for their bfs on that day, so I always thought it was for reciprocal gifting, not just spoiling your girlfriend.

    • Valentine’s day has been ruined by large corporations, emotional pornography (I posted on that), and unrealistic feminine expectations. Let’s focus instead on March 14, Steak and Blowjob day!

      • But I want steak and a blowjob too. Is March 14 going to be a reciprocal sort of holiday?

        Seriously though, just because there was a corporate takeover doesn’t mean you can’t reclaim the holiday. Keep it simple. Nobody makes valentines anymore, you can get some construction paper, some doilies and magic markers and make one. It would be thoughtful as fuck, so if she complains, dump her.

        Honestly, the best valentine I’ve ever gotten was a bucket of gummi worms from Costco. The boyfriend knew how I liked my sour candy and I was delighted with it. Thoughtful trumps grand gestures any day.

  16. I’ve been married 30 1/2 years. Will someone please tell me what a “blowjob” is? I vaguely recall hearing about it, and if I’m not mistaken it has a certain sexual aspect to it. I am thinking of the right thing?

  17. I think dudes just have to say “no.” As in “no dear, I’m not observing Valentine’s Day.” Don’t do it the day before/after either, that just shifts the day of obligation. At the very least, go give blood on the holiday like Luke Perry did on 90210 then go home and shag.

    If you have a romantically expressive relationship, Valentine’s Day is excessive and redundant.

    If you’re having a booty call or something totally non-committed, you shouldn’t be doing romantic expression.


    And finally,

    • See this is why I like being born on Valentines day, I have the ultimate “no dear” ace up my sleeve. Celebration of my birth > your hallmark holiday. Now buy me dinner and give me a blowjob.

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