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In Praise Of Men Over 40

I got this from a spinster… Her comments (and those of the original piece she references) in are italics, my comments are in bold.

Andy Rooney called it “In Praise of Women Over 40” (or something like that). I like it.

Well, Andrea Rooney has written a fine rebuttal:

As I grow in age, I value men who are over 40 most of all. Here are just a few reasons why:

As I grow in age, I value men who are over 40 most of all. Here are just a few reasons why:

A woman over 40 will never wake you in the middle of the night to ask, “What are you thinking?” She doesn’t care what you think.

A man over 40 will never ask you (when you’re being bitchy and sulky) “Honey, what’s wrong?” He simply doesn’t care what’s wrong with you. Grow up.

If a woman over 40 doesn’t want to watch the game, she doesn’t sit around whining about it. She does something she wants to do. And, it’s usually something more interesting.

A man over 40 doesn’t want to go shopping, he doesn’t get pissed off that you do. He does something he wants to do. And, it’s always something more interesting like creating life-saving medical devices for women, managing the construction of a shoe store, or supervising the logistics of manufacturing jewelry.

A woman over 40 knows herself well enough to be assured in who she is, what she is, what she wants and from whom. Few women past the age of 40 give a damn what you might think about her or what she’s doing.

A man over 40 is confident, successful, and knows who he is. Few men over 40 give a damn about what you think about him or what he’s doing.

Women over 40 are dignified. They seldom have a screaming match with you at the opera or in the middle of an expensive restaurant. Of course, if you deserve it, they won’t hesitate to shoot you, if they think they can get away with it.

Men over 40 are dignified. They will never have a screaming match in public or private, they will simply leave to find another woman. If you deserve it, they’ll trade you in even faster. The shooting stuff? Andy Rooney is dead, he should have died of natural causes after he wrote this stupid list.

Older women are generous with praise, often undeserved. They know what it’s like to be unappreciated.

No man should be be generous with praise. It makes him look like a chump. All men of all ages know what it’s like to be unappreciated. But stupid men “man up” to accept that lying down.

A woman over 40 has the self-assurance to introduce you to her women friends. A younger woman with a man will often ignore even her best friend because she doesn’t trust the guy with other women. Women over 40 couldn’t care less if you’re attracted to her friends because she knows her friends won’t betray her.

A man over 40 has the confidence to introduce any of his friends to you. A younger man with confidence will do the same. A man over 40 couldn’t care less if you’re attracted to his friends because he’s dating three other women.

Women get psychic as they age. You never have to confess your sins to a woman over 40. They always know.

Men get smarter as they age. They always know because they use logic and reason to evaluate a relationship situation. You never have to confess your sins to a man over 40. He’s out-sinned you and has for more options for continued sinning.

A woman over 40 looks good wearing bright red lipstick. This is not true of younger women or drag queens.

A man over 40 simply looks good.

Once you get past a wrinkle or two, a woman over 40 is far sexier than her younger counterpart.

With a wrinkle or two, a man is far more attractive because it shows his experience and wisdom.

Older women are forthright and honest. They’ll tell you right off if you are a jerk if you are acting like one! You don’t ever have to wonder where you stand with her.

Older men are forthright and honest. They’ll tell you right off if you are a bitch or if you are acting like one! You don’t ever have to wonder where you stand with him.

Yes, we praise women over 40 for a multitude of reasons. Unfortunately, it’s not reciprocal. For every stunning, smart, well-coiffed hot woman of 40+, there is a paunchy, lazy relic in yellow pants making a fool of himself with some 22-year-old waitress. Ladies, I apologize.

Yes, we praise men over 40 for a multitude of reasons. Unfortunately, it’s not reciprocal. For every interesting, smart, charismatic man of 40+, there is a fat, bitchy relic in sweat pants attempting to make a fool of herself with some 22-year-old stud. Gentlemen, I apologize.

Gentlemen, that spinster blog requires the bright light of the Manosphere. Have at it.

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13 thoughts on “In Praise Of Men Over 40

  1. “Once you get past a wrinkle or two, a woman over 40 is far sexier than her younger counterpart.”

    Far sexier = far more willing to go str8 2 anal on the first date.

    • DC Phil on said:

      My additions — just to keep it real πŸ™‚

      1. A woman usually cares what you think, unless (like my parents) she’s been married to you for over 50 years and knows your habits, both good and bad, inside and out. Really, she only ever asks if you do something really stupid or out of character in that situation.

      2. A man over 40 is confident, successful, and knows who he is — provided that he took the red pill, did something to correct and modify his inner game if there were any deficiencies, and took the time to study up on himself and human nature. Luck helps, too.

      3. Men and women over 40 can both be dignified if they were raised/trained as such and don’t succumb to stupid temptations. Sex in the City contributed to women’s downfall, along with Lifetime, other chick lit, and general declining educational expectations of society at large. Men also were the victims of the last one. Not their fault, necessarily. But, both sexes have the means to correct this, if they choose to do so, and can seek out better role models.

      4. Older women seem more generous with praise when it suits them, or when they feel that they have fewer options.

      5. A man has the confidence to introduce any of his friends to you. Whether the woman reciprocates is moot. More telling is how the woman acts in the presence of the man’s female friends — and whether she feels threatened by them. (E.g., cries and storms out of the bar, claiming that you’re neglecting her. This happened to me two months ago.)

      6. A man over 40 simply looks good — provided that he has good style, keeps himself fit, and takes care of himself mentally, physically, and spiritually. The same applies to women, but it’s much harder for them because of how they’re usually judged on their looks and sex appeal. πŸ™‚

      7. A older woman CAN be far sexier than her younger counterpart, provided that she offers something to compensate for reduced physical attractiveness. For me, a 22 yr old hottie who’s tight, but who’s self-absorbed and acts like she’s 11 and is lousy in bed, can’t compete with a 35 yr old woman who doesn’t need you to pay for her drinks or dinners, whispers in a deep voice that she’s “seriously underfucked,” and is multi-orgasmic. provided that she’s taken care of herself and knows what she brings to the table in a relationship.

  2. I had a few dates a few years back with a 42 year old former hottie. She has/had a very athletic build; still, and you can tell in the past her face was decent enough, but now time has done its damage and she has VERY serious lines. She’s having her Wyle E Coyote moment, as it were. Anyway, she told me about a pump and dump she had and wined about how their were not any decent men. Also, she quoted the Andy Rooney piece to me and expressed that she didnt understand why men her age didn’t think like Rooney.

    Needless to say, its because he was 90 years old when he taped that piece, and 40 year old women are very hot to a 90 year old man. I was polite enough not to say this to her.

    Its hard not for me to feel a little shadefeude for a former hottie that wines about no good men being left.

    • I’m having a “discussion” with a woman named Dina over at (I forgot which blog post) and she actually stated that women over 40 don’t have to offer a man anything in the context of dating and a relationship. The rationalization hamster is strong with that one. Of course, Dina resorts to insults, anger, and general dismissal of anything I might say. And she wonders why she is single? Run, hamster, run!

      • Some women can get away with this. Men, in general, have more trouble forming social networks than women do and if you are one of these guys it can get very lonely, and so you may lower your standards just to have some company.

        The great thing about the manosphere, as you pointed out, is that its a social network men’s club so men can actually chat and form relationships, albeit in a non-tactile way. This is a great start for men to form social networks so they dont have to lower their standards and date an undeserving woman who doesn’t care to be attractive.

        Men are starting to get the advantage again. I wish I had been born now instead in the early 1960’s.

      • In her mind, being pumped and dumped by an Alpha is a “relationship”.
        That is good, decent men do not have to suffer cockblocking or interference in their jobs from such women then.
        From what I observe, women over 40 have nothing to offer a man looking for a stable relationship, since:
        1) too old to have children, or already have them;
        2) too many prior relationships to be a good choice for a stable relationship
        3) the guy she is with will have to pay “relationship compensation” for all her previous bad decisions
        4) the demands for what is needed to keep the relationship going are too high
        5) chances are very good that she may now be in the position where health conditions are kicking in.
        When honesty cannot be expected, or zero reciprocity occurs …
        time to walk away.

      • DC Phil on said:

        I agree with the Manosphere being the new “men’s club,” as it were, since I, too, have found it difficult to form new male friends as I’ve gotten older.

        To wit, here are the challenges I’ve faced:

        1. Fewer single men my age and slightly younger (say, ten years) who are willing to go out for coffee, beers, or even visiting others’ domiciles for chats about the world, politics, etc. There are even younger men (20-somethings), but I find the maturity level to be subpar. (Not necessarily their fault since they’ve been the victims of feminist assaults.) As for older men, they tend to be too old at times.

        2. Too many men who are either married or in LTRs, and so have to seek their wives’ or SO’s approval before going out with other, unmarried or unattached men.

        3. Too many men who work too much or who are unemployed and struggling to find work, and so have little time or energy to socialize. I was in the latter position more than once in my life and it was only with my most recent stint over a year ago that I was able to go out and socialize with other men. (Was getting unemployment, so that helped ease the anxiety.)

        4. Subpar intellectual capacity, a consequence of, and made worse by, the dumbing down of education and culture. (For me, the jury is still out whether this has affected men or women the most harshly.) I like classical music, academic subjects, and would prefer to talk about such things within the context of a general discussion. I don’t care to talk about sports, video games, or going out to get hammered every other weekend. Lest you think that I’m someone high-and-mighty, I can hold discussions on more pedestrian topics and get by fairly well. I’m talking about how there’s a very palpable lack of curiosity among today’s younger men. This is one reason why I chose to have more female friends than male friends, because I’ve found that, despite the bullshit that comes with the gender, many women can sometimes hold intelligent conversations. (Beats talking to myself. :))

        I can adduce other reasons, but I’m sure you get the point.

      • I dont like sports either, which makes me an oddball in male culture. I see sports as a waste of time, when I can learn stuff. The great thing about the internet is you can “hang out” with people of like minded interests. One of mine is the dynamics between the sexes. Try to bring this conversation up with a woman and she will likely go ballistic.

        It can be a lonely life for some guys.

    • DC Phil on said:

      Oh, yes . . . and I forgot to add the continuing taboo against close male friendships, lest society thinks that they’re gay.

  3. Here is the ultimate antidote to the Rooney Piece. This is a classic.

    • Ah, Tom Leykis. While blunt, harsh, wildly politically incorrect, he does speak some solid and undeniable truths in that show.   When Leykis gets back on the air, we need to get him involved in the Manosphere.   I need to highlight that particular broadcast Youtube in a seperate blog post.

  4. just visiting on said:

    Of course, if you deserve it, they won’t hesitate to shoot you, if they think they can get away with it.

    Good grief. From a man no less.

    • Andy Rooney was from a generation that automatically put women on pedestals because the women were expected to behave in a lady-like way. That’s the old social contract between the genders. We’re still writing the new social contract and the men (PUAs, MRAs, and MGTOWs) are writing it to benefit them.

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