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Archive for the day “June 5, 2011”

Good Frame: Statements, Not Questions

As it turns out, my date has done some Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) therapy to help tone down here fierce career drive. Yeah, she’s a “career woman” in the classic Forbes model. [Note: that article and subsequent comments galvanized a lot of MRM and MGTOW types to start the Manosphere… if any one has a link to the library of comments, please post it up here]

As quite a few PUA practitioners know, NLP is an element of Game. It’s interesting that a career woman would pursue NLP. I told her about Game and it turns out that she already knows about it. Her comment was priceless: “Game is also all about sex, too.”

As for the frame element, I was quite candid about it. As she was leaving today and after a fine weekend, I said “I’ll walk you to your car.”

Seven words and so much implied.

A few years ago, I would have asked “Can I walk you to your car?”

The question versus the statement.

During the attraction phase, a question is alpha.

During the comfort phase, a question is beta.

I told her about the shift in my mindset as we we were walking to the car. “I don’t ask questions anymore.”

She presented another priceless response: “I’m glad you made the statement.”

“I’m a man. I take the lead.”

She kissed me passionately.

“I love men.”

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