While out walking my ugly dog (photo below) this morning, I came across a small local event promoting the fight against cancer. Several local organizations were present. Sadly, the music was provided by a mediocre group butchering rock ‘n roll classics with very dull knives.
Local law enforcement was present, as well:
Of course, not all Broward County sheriff’s patrol cars are painted like this. In fact, this is the first pink one I’ve seen. I wonder if it actually goes out on patrol.
Yeah, it’s a pink patrol car. I really don’t have any commentary. So, here’s a photo of my dog licking my big, bald head. I don’t sit on the sofa much because every time I do, she jumps on the back and commences to licking. It’s weird and everyone who has witnessed this canine behavior laughs for the first few seconds and then says “that’s really weird.”
Posted by theprivateman on June 1, 2013
The comments on my blog posts are consistently good. Every n0w and then a new commenter shows up with something special. A female reader stumbled onto my humble blog and commented on this post. The comment is rather buried because it’s a response to an existing comment. So, here’s the whole comment with notes from me in boldface:
I admit as a young woman I drank the Kool-Aid. It was the late 70′s and in college most of my friends also drank the Kool-Aid.
I remember moving down south to Manhattan Beach, CA in the early 80′s thinking I would stay for 5 years or so and move back north and find a nice job teaching kindergarten. I eventually found a job making fantastic money in a unrelated field. I wanted nothing more than to be a stay at home mom and raise and nurture the kids and figured we could live on my husband’s salary and bank my income or we could live on my salary and bank his.
What I didn’t figure on was he drank the Kool-Aid too. [What's good for the goose is good for the gander]
He saw no problem living the DINK lifestyle while my clock was ticking. He loved going to parties, parading his pretty little wife around on his arm both of us making six figures and weren’t we just the hottest, upwardly mobile couple around. Let’s just say we are no longer a couple but I stayed too long wanting to make things work.
What I can remember from that time is there was tremendous guilt placed on women who wanted to be stay-at-home moms. Tremendous guilt. I can remember some of my college friends who were SAHM’s and felt the need to apologize for staying at home and raising children and creating a home for the family. What happened that we had to apologize for wanting to raise kids in a warm and loving environment? Kool-Aid [feminism, she can't bring herself to type the word] happened.
I happened on this blog by accident and wasn’t aware there was this conversation taking place out there. My friends and I do discuss the lies we believed. Somehow we could have it all (at the same time) and there would be no price paid. It really is laughable. [But blue pill wisdom clings desperately to the "having it all" lie.]
I can’t tell you how many people my age now see the lie for what it is and believe me most of my girlfriends have sat down with both their girls and boys and had a serious Come-to -Jesus meeting about real life. [Most of it will fall on ears made deaf by media messages.]
Women my age feel like cannon fodder and we are not going to let our children be used in this way. [The system won't let you.]
Women who experienced 2nd wave feminism and bought into it are reaping what they sowed. But there’s no going back. A small number of angry and vocal women completely changed the social expectation and the socio-economic system adjusted accordingly with quiet cunning. Worse, the Betty Friedans of the world created another small but outrageously vocal group of angry young women who are doing their best to make more Kool-Aid and force it down society’s throat.
Posted by theprivateman on May 6, 2013
My long time readers know that I’ve backed away from the vitriol that immediately arises when feminism is discussed in the Manosphere. Yes, I’m generally scornful of this ideology. It’s done more to poison the dating and relationship well than even the selfish individualism started by baby boomers back in the 1960s. No matter, my focus is now much more on attraction and dating, for both men and women.
Until I saw this video.
This is what a feminist looks like.
If you get through more than five minutes, it’ll be a miracle. There’s not much more commentary than I can give. The back story at the University of Toronto is unpleasant. Research it for your own edification….I’ve got dating and attraction advice to dispense.
Posted by theprivateman on April 19, 2013
Yes, it’s happening. I’ll be there as planned and on time.
Things have come together. For more of the back story, see the link below the map image (Google map the zip code “33308″ to get a more specific location) . There’s a list of attendees there.
Friday, March 8, 7:30PM – those who are in town are invited to the Ocean Mist Pub. It’s a typical neighborhood bar complete with the usual suspects. See the map for the exact location.
Friday, March 8, 9:00PM – we hit the village. There’s live music and a lively crowd.
Saturday, March 9, 2:00PM – Village Grill Sushi Bar. While sushi isn’t available until 4PM, we’ll have the room to ourselves until then. Anyone is welcome to do some speechifying. I certainly will.
Saturday, March 9, 8:00PM – Casa del Private Man for the older guys. Beer and food to accompany plans for world domination. The younger guys must hit Fort Lauderdale Beach for the Spring Break action.
Sunday, March 10, 10:30AM – Aruba Cafe (on the beach) for lunch and debriefing. Tall tales are required.
Map for locations:
Spring Break, previous update, attendee list.
Posted by theprivateman on March 4, 2013
I’m giving the opportunity for my readers to unleash their feelings about this thoroughly awkward and potentially disastrous day for men. Say anything you want. Curse or praise the day, I don’t care and I won’t censor (unless one of my blog haters makes a comment).
Spleens, vent on!
If I get a truly exceptional comment(s), I’ll feature it in tomorrow’s blog post. Spelling counts.
Posted by theprivateman on February 14, 2013
I’ve not posted in a week or so because I’m still dealing with the injuries related to my recent motorcycle mishap. Yes, I’ve seen my physician and she told me that the healing process – especially the cracked rib – would take several weeks.
While I’ve not been writing much, I have been reading comments on my blog and other blogs, some Manosphere, some not. I urge all my readers to read the blogs in my blog roll. There’s some excellent, if incredibly blunt, advice for men and women alike.
Also, the Spring Break meetup is coming up soon (link below) and that could be quite the event with some Manosphere luminaries potentially attending. It’s a relatively unorganized event. It’s main purpose is for the guys to meet each other in person. I would rather this meetup be about men being better men and not politics.
I’ll be posting again soon while also working on my next project, Red Pill Dating, a series of entertaining and educational live classes for both men and women.
Spring Break 2013 Manosphere Meetup Update
Posted by theprivateman on February 12, 2013
Posted by theprivateman on January 26, 2013
A reader made a comment and it contains a request for advice and information on a topic that I can’t really address. This is due to simple ignorance on my part. I have done no research nor do I have any experience in this area.
So, read the comment to see what the issue is and perhaps one of my outstandingly brilliant readers can address it with a comment. And it gets complicated… she’s 35. Thanks in advance.
I only recently found your website and I must say, it is really refreshing to read guys opinions on dating/understanding women etc – world only knows how many similar articles there are by women on how to understand men.
Let me just mention to you that I, for one, am the person who doesn’t believe in dating rules. I believe in being yourself and natural. I am not here for looking for the dating advice, as I’m not ready for this kind of thing – not yet anyway.
But what I would like to ask you is to point me out to an article that would talk about, widows – meaning, what do you think one should talk about to another when there’s been 2 years of an awful black hole of recovery and when you have spent lovely and respectful years with your partner.
I know that at this stage, having the near perfect relationship (yes near to perfect and yes, there have been disagreement as anyone would in a normal relationship), the requirements get higher.
Partly because now I know what makes me happy and know what made/ did not make him happy. If you have something you wrote down before or would be interested in investigating it, it would be great. It would be nice to see what guys/men think of that or how have you/they come out it.
Posted by theprivateman on December 19, 2012
Why is this relevant to the Manosphere? Because this loose collection of blogs, forums, and websites is off the grid of big media. Sure, we’re but a tiny ant compared to big media but I like to think we carry some big ideas. Enjoy (scroll down, it’s long but not like “LongCat”):
Posted by theprivateman on November 13, 2012
Yesterday’s running of the lurkers (link below) proved extremely successful. I thank all the lurkers who de-cloaked to post a comment. I did respond to each and every one, if only with a few brief words. One comment rolled in that deserves special treatment. It’s from “anonymous” – a woman as she indicated in a previous comment – and it’s encouraging. Also, it serves to remind men that we are the gatekeepers to commitment. I’ve done some minor editing to make it a bit more readable.
No, thank you.
Your blog is helpful and we haven’t been treated harshly when we dare ask a question, unlike some sites, one in which I was really surprised at the attitude I encountered considering the poignant header. The anger turned my daughter off for a while, but drove me to find out what was behind it so I started searching.
Allow me to tell you and your gentlemen readers out there that all is not lost on American women. Some are getting it, look for them and reward their good behavior. I think intuitively young women are starting to wake up and realize the teachings of the previous generation were false.
While I cannot see us returning to the days of pre-feminism, I do see the Manosphere heralding a time of accountability for women that will change their current mode of thinking. In the end hetero women innately want to be in a relationship with men and will do what is required to be done to make that happen. Remember you hold the keys gentlemen, now jingle them where the ladies can see and hear them.
Every time you get a chance to espouse red pill wisdom, do so. I do, but sometimes it has to be ever so subtle as I live in a very liberal town and have to be careful. My daughter does with her actions and words at college and has seen two of her five roommates change for the better. I hope your readers will do the same. Change is coming but it is slow, as always.
Privateman, keep being a voice of change.
After reading all the comments and making some mental notes about my readership, here are some conclusions I have come to:
- My readers are geographically diverse. One of the comments came from a guy in Ethiopia!
- I have a fair number of female readers. I suspect this is because many women are frustrated at the current cultural landscape regarding dating and they are looking for honest answers about men.
- The age range is quite large but looks to be skewing to the post-35 crowd. This is expected because I write like a middle-aged guy (because I am one, go figure).
- My writing style is somewhat in contrast to other Manosphere bloggers in that I’m perceived as more moderate and measured with my words. Though one commenter thought I was too cynical and acerbic at times.
I really do enjoy writing this blog and knowing that I do have real readers is tremendous encouragement. Thanks again to all.
Lurkers Of The World, Unite!
Posted by theprivateman on October 31, 2012