Lurkers Of The World, Unite!

I did this exercise last year and it was quite successful. I’m going to up the stakes. I want 100 new commenters. You don’t have to say anything except the following:

1. Age
2. Gender
3. Location
4. How you found my blog

If you want to give compliments to my blog, I won’t say no. If you have suggestions, speak up. If you think I’m just an old windbag, get off my lawn. If you’re a hater, your comment won’t make it through moderation.

Until I get 100 new commenters, this post stays up. You regulars, stay out of this. This is between me and my lurkers.

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  1. #1 by Amber on October 30, 2012 - 1:55 PM

    36, female, Seattle, linked from University of Man.

    • #2 by theprivateman on October 30, 2012 - 5:33 PM

      University of Man will be missed. And how do you fend off all the political correctness in Seattle?

      • #3 by Amber on October 31, 2012 - 12:58 PM

        Oh! It will. I just found their adios. Sadness. How do I fend off the PC crap? I lurk ^_^

  2. #4 by Southern Man on October 30, 2012 - 1:55 PM

    Early fifties.
    Male.
    Midwestern USA.
    Found through Delusion Damage, now on my blogroll.

    Also…first!

    • #5 by Alpha on October 30, 2012 - 2:44 PM

      Nope! Second.

    • #6 by theprivateman on October 30, 2012 - 5:34 PM

      Close enough. Thanks for the blogroll inclusion.

      • #7 by Southern Man on October 31, 2012 - 2:06 PM

        I thought I would have a pretty good shot at “oldest reader” but not even close. Believe me, there are plenty of us who have lots of good years left in us and don’t want to see them go to waste.

  3. #8 by mabrothrax on October 30, 2012 - 1:57 PM

    32 year old male from the UK, south east coast. Was googling for perspectives on OKC.

    • #9 by theprivateman on October 30, 2012 - 5:35 PM

      Hmmm, southeast coast? I attended the University of Sussex for a year. Are you close to there?

  4. #10 by delicioustacos on October 30, 2012 - 1:58 PM

    36
    I sport the wang and sac.
    Los Angeles
    I think through Bronan the Barbarian, probably.

    • #11 by theprivateman on October 30, 2012 - 5:35 PM

      Wang and sac?! Lulz. Your blog is righteously good.

  5. #12 by Old Glory on October 30, 2012 - 1:58 PM

    28 years old
    Male
    Washington, D.C.
    Linked from Dalrock

    • #13 by theprivateman on October 30, 2012 - 5:36 PM

      You’re in your mid-20s and living in DC… tough, tough, tough… suit up, Game on.

  6. #14 by Walt on October 30, 2012 - 2:01 PM

    41, Male, Chicago
    Found thru linkage from another blog (been awhile, not sure which)
    Single again after my wife decided she was not haaaaaappppy, so this blog has been an eye opener!

  7. #16 by Rojo on October 30, 2012 - 2:09 PM

    30
    Male
    Sacramento
    I think I found it from Badgerhuts blogroll.

  8. #18 by Josue on October 30, 2012 - 2:12 PM

    late twenties;
    male;
    Brazil;
    some other manosphere blogger retweeted you.

  9. #20 by pugsfugly on October 30, 2012 - 2:17 PM

    32
    Male
    Texas
    Delusion Damage

    • #21 by theprivateman on October 30, 2012 - 5:38 PM

      I really do appreciate my readers (even if you are from Texas). Now get off my lawn! lulz

  10. #22 by Devilsclarinet on October 30, 2012 - 2:17 PM

    25
    Male
    Capital Region, New York
    University of Man (RIP)

    • #23 by theprivateman on October 30, 2012 - 5:39 PM

      Best user name ever. But I really can’t imagine the devil playing the clarinet.

  11. #24 by Ajax on October 30, 2012 - 2:18 PM

    60
    M
    Arizona
    The U of M did indeed perish

    • #25 by theprivateman on October 30, 2012 - 5:40 PM

      60 years old… so very cool. You, sir, probably have some serious wisdom to dispense to the younger generations.

  12. #26 by Will on October 30, 2012 - 2:21 PM

    19, male, Germany, linked from University of Man i think.

  13. #28 by LS on October 30, 2012 - 2:22 PM

    45
    M
    GA
    some guy’s blogroll, forgot

    • #29 by theprivateman on October 30, 2012 - 5:41 PM

      I appreciate your eyeballs on my blog. Thanks. Seriously.

  14. #30 by B NY on October 30, 2012 - 2:24 PM

    32
    M
    Kansas City
    Rationalmale.wordpress.com

    • #31 by theprivateman on October 30, 2012 - 5:42 PM

      Rollo is sometimes too cerebral for me. But then again, I’m not the sharpest knife in the drawer.

  15. #32 by dermanus on October 30, 2012 - 2:28 PM

    28, male, Ontario.
    It was a manosphere blogger. Dalrock probably, but don’t quote me.

  16. #34 by Dr. Eric Stratton on October 30, 2012 - 2:30 PM

    I’ve linked so not sure I count, but I’m 36, my parents were blessed with a masculine child, I live in Arkansas, and I think I first read you via Hawaiian Libertarian’s blogroll. Bonus answer: I think we should call you Blue a la “Old School.”

    • #35 by theprivateman on October 30, 2012 - 2:32 PM

      Blue? From the movie Old School with Will Farrel?

      • #36 by Dr. Eric Stratton on October 30, 2012 - 2:34 PM

        Yeah, you’re old, you call people names, and I assume you love titties.

      • #37 by theprivateman on October 30, 2012 - 2:34 PM

        I like it!

  17. #38 by Allan on October 30, 2012 - 2:32 PM

    26 male alaska probably found this blog through roissy.

    • #39 by theprivateman on October 30, 2012 - 5:44 PM

      Alaska, sweet. Well, not in winter. I’m in South Florida and can’t even conceive of such a climate that you’re dealing with.

  18. #40 by Tom on October 30, 2012 - 2:33 PM

    36, M, Europe. Like many other I don’t remember how I found you.

    • #41 by theprivateman on October 30, 2012 - 5:45 PM

      I think there is a serious need in Europe for Manosphere wisdom.

  19. #42 by scrambledhamsters on October 30, 2012 - 2:35 PM

    27, male, UK, found the link on RVF

    • #43 by theprivateman on October 30, 2012 - 5:46 PM

      “Scrambledhamsters” I love it. And thanks for your mentions on your blog. Keep us posted on your online dating progress.

      • #44 by scrambledhamsters on October 31, 2012 - 12:17 PM

        I will do.
        Am scribing my way through the next post now. May be up tomorrow as tonight is man night… Cars beer and a few friends, every week without fail

  20. #45 by Good Luck Chuck on October 30, 2012 - 2:46 PM

    41, male, Central Florida, friend of Rollo T

    If I had more time to comment on most of the blogs I read this wouldn’t be my first post.

    • #46 by theprivateman on October 30, 2012 - 2:54 PM

      Ah, Rollo… I need to invite him down here for a visit so we can scheme.

      • #47 by Good Luck Chuck on October 30, 2012 - 4:45 PM

        I’d split the gas if you can talk him into heading that way.

        Nothing like a good red pill discussion amongst an enlightened group of men.

      • #48 by theprivateman on October 30, 2012 - 5:23 PM

        I’m working it… stay tuned.

  21. #49 by Seedless on October 30, 2012 - 2:51 PM

    27
    Male
    Los Angeles
    Can’t remember… Bronan, or D&P, or AP or one of em’

    Been following a bunch of manosphere blogs recently, trying to keep up with new posts, and work my way back through the archives. I’ve been more focused on day game recently and have found some good advice in your articles, such as doing errands alone. I always have better results rolling dolo.

    As a few of these guys, U of Man, Alpha Persona, etc., are falling off, it’d be nice to see someone pick up the slack in the areas they would cover. It’s nice to have various resources from health, to sociology, women, communication, travel… Helps to become more rounded and not just a pick-up scam artist.

    Thanks!

    • #50 by theprivateman on October 30, 2012 - 5:47 PM

      The Manosphere is quite adaptable and look at the newer blogs to pick up the slack.

  22. #51 by west_coast on October 30, 2012 - 2:55 PM

    Male
    35
    Vancouver, Canada
    linked through another blog (can’t recall which)

    • #52 by theprivateman on October 30, 2012 - 5:48 PM

      Vancouver? I’m waiting for another hockey nerd riot. OK, that was in bad taste.

  23. #53 by Isaac Jordan on October 30, 2012 - 3:04 PM

    23
    Male
    Atlanta

    It’s been too long for me to remember. I started out reading Roissy/Roosh/Rollo about a year and a half ago, and just began following the guys whose comments I found enjoyable or insightful. I’ve generally lurked up until now, simply because when I first found this little corner of the Internet, I didn’t really have much value to add to the conversation. Everyone I follow is so much wiser/more experienced. I still feel like a rookie, but I’ll try to better about throwing my two cents out there, even if it’s just to agree with something or express my gratitude for a certain post.

    • #54 by theprivateman on October 30, 2012 - 5:49 PM

      As you learn and experience things, take notes and share. You’re at a great age to share. Oh, I lived in Atlanta on three separate occasions. I really like that city.

  24. #55 by Maria on October 30, 2012 - 3:06 PM

    A lady never divulges her age……ok so I am 31. I am a little further away…Leicestershire, England. I came across you, so to speak, from a comment I made on Tao of Dirt about motorcycles! And I am now a secret addict and intruder on the ‘manosphere’! I look forward to your posts! Insightful and funny. Always something to be learned. Thankyou!

    • #56 by theprivateman on October 30, 2012 - 3:08 PM

      I’m still riding that motorcycle… it’s now got over 120K mikes on it, all mine.

      • #57 by Maria on October 30, 2012 - 3:37 PM

        It now has 120 ‘mikes’ on it! Interesting! Giggle! Over here it takes ages to clock up those mikes!

      • #58 by theprivateman on October 30, 2012 - 3:46 PM

        Oops, typo! But I’ll leave it unrepaired, just for shits and giggles.

      • #59 by Maria on October 30, 2012 - 3:54 PM

        An unusual typo that makes me feel happier about making lots of my own typo’s! Thank you!

  25. #60 by Bluefire on October 30, 2012 - 3:06 PM

    30
    Male
    Sweden
    Probably through dalrock almost a year ago.

    • #61 by theprivateman on October 30, 2012 - 5:50 PM

      Oh, Sweden, the epicenter of feminist ridiculousness. You have a tough row to hoe.

  26. #62 by MD on October 30, 2012 - 3:08 PM

    42 Male N Fl linked from Red Pill Room

    • #63 by theprivateman on October 30, 2012 - 5:51 PM

      Florida, huh? I’m contemplating a Manosphere get-together here for spring break…stay tuned.

      • #64 by sosweet2362 on October 30, 2012 - 8:47 PM

        Do I get to serve refreshments?

  27. #65 by Shane on October 30, 2012 - 3:08 PM

    36, Male, Fort Worth Texas. Found you through U of Man

    • #66 by theprivateman on October 30, 2012 - 5:53 PM

      Lots of my readers came from U of Man. That blog will be missed.

  28. #67 by Helter Skelter (@heltersk) on October 30, 2012 - 3:09 PM

    26 years old
    Male
    South Brazil (mid-west of Santa Catarina) [*]
    Found the blog through the manosphere and related blogs, maybe HUS.

    [*] You should visit here. In Brazil, the southern you go, the prettier [and white] ladies are.

    • #68 by theprivateman on October 30, 2012 - 3:18 PM

      Yeah, I do need to get down there. But I’m a 50 year old guy…

      • #69 by Wald on October 30, 2012 - 5:00 PM

        Age is not so much of problem in Latin countries as you might think.

  29. #70 by susan on October 30, 2012 - 3:15 PM

    52, Female, Las Vegas, Through another blog,,I am mostly smiling through your musing and thoughts put to words, i,e, Shopping alone, and flirting at the Dr’s office. I would say the most prominent sensation I get from reading your blog is that you genuinely enjoy it .

    • #71 by theprivateman on October 30, 2012 - 5:54 PM

      I really do enjoy blogging. It’s a ferociously good outlet for my psyche. I’m please you picked up on my enthusiasm.

  30. #72 by Jon on October 30, 2012 - 3:19 PM

    56,Male,Cheshire(England) Through Dalrock’s blog,i think.

    • #73 by theprivateman on October 30, 2012 - 5:55 PM

      The English readers always make me pleased. Thanks!

  31. #74 by thayer on October 30, 2012 - 3:23 PM

    60
    Male
    Rural flyover country
    I honestly don’t remember.

    • #75 by theprivateman on October 30, 2012 - 5:57 PM

      60-year-old from “flyover” country… like all my readers and commenters over 50, you likely have lots of wisdom and history to share. Feel free to do so.

  32. #76 by Changed Man on October 30, 2012 - 3:27 PM

    52 yo
    Male
    Chicago Suburb
    Found from blog roll of other manosphere sites. Recently took the red pill, trying to save my marriage, unfortunately too late. Good news is I’ve made excellent progress in becoming my ‘best version of me’ and will be well positioned when I’m ready to put myself out there again. I read your blog regularly and find your perspectives very useful. Keep it up!

    • #77 by theprivateman on October 30, 2012 - 5:58 PM

      I am sincerely grateful for your kind words. Keep progressing, please.

  33. #78 by BrianJ on October 30, 2012 - 3:32 PM

    46
    Male
    Southern Ontario
    In Mala Fide

    • #79 by theprivateman on October 30, 2012 - 5:58 PM

      More Canadians, I love it!

      • #80 by BrianJ on October 31, 2012 - 10:28 AM

        Well, if that’s the case, looks like I have to contribute something with more substance. I have a couple of bad online dating profiles I have saved somewhere. It’s from Lavalife which is really popular in Canada. I was going to start a blog a few years ago about this topic but never got around to it. I’ll post some later.
        I think in the not too distant future, you should conduct a survey for the TOP 10 WORST DATING PROFILES. There quite a selection.

  34. #81 by Boisfeuras on October 30, 2012 - 3:34 PM

    44, male, SF Bay Area, link from Delusion Damage

    • #82 by theprivateman on October 30, 2012 - 5:30 PM

      Is feminism really strong out there like we keep reading?

      • #83 by Boisfeuras on October 31, 2012 - 4:52 PM

        In general, yes. The Bay Area is a big place, and the women vary from one area to another. But compared to Texas or Florida, absolutely.

  35. #84 by Mohsin on October 30, 2012 - 3:35 PM

    24, Pakistan, Male, While lurking duh!
    Keep up the good work

  36. #86 by VooDooMan on October 30, 2012 - 3:40 PM

    56 male Louisiana I honestly don’t remember how I ran across your blog

    Have found it very interesting emerging from an extremely ugly divorce

    You’ve opened my eyes on a lot of things

    • #87 by theprivateman on October 30, 2012 - 5:29 PM

      Thankyou. And sorry about your ugly divorce. Take the Red Pill and improve your life.

  37. #88 by M. on October 30, 2012 - 3:40 PM

    24
    Male
    Omaha
    Through the manosphere

  38. #90 by VH on October 30, 2012 - 3:41 PM

    1: 21
    2: Male
    3: Finland
    4: The Rational Male blog

    • #91 by theprivateman on October 30, 2012 - 5:28 PM

      I have read that Finland has a growing men’s rights movement. Is this true?

      • #92 by VH on October 31, 2012 - 1:41 PM

        I am not sure about the movement, but Henry Laasanen blogs a lot about sexual marketplace and men’s rights. He is skilled at writing provocative essays, and some of his articles have gained a lot of popularity.

        I think that his contribution has made these “heretic” ideas about SMP and sexual equality more well known, but I’m not aware of any large movements yet. :)

  39. #93 by VooDooMan on October 30, 2012 - 3:42 PM

    Question:

    I get the general gist of what is meant, but can you tell me specifically what “taking the red pill” means?

    • #94 by sleeper on October 31, 2012 - 7:21 PM

  40. #95 by Shameful on October 30, 2012 - 3:44 PM

    32
    Male
    SLC Utah
    Off link of UMan, gone but not forgotten.

    • #96 by theprivateman on October 30, 2012 - 5:27 PM

      LDS, are ya?

      • #97 by Shameful on October 30, 2012 - 6:03 PM

        Nope, though LDS guys need game. Moved out here recently, but before finding the red pill. Came for the jobs, lot of work here in IT. Hell several of my friends ended up following me. It’s not a bad place, but I randomly catch flak from coworkers about not being married and I routinely about my age as it’s getting “weird”. Few of the drawbacks are the young marriage age of lot of girls, LDS girls tend to get plump (blame baking), and the bar booze rules. Even pre red pill would try my game at uni bars which basically don’t exist here due to zoning laws.

        Though LDS guys are so nice they don’t really provide any competition, but as a favor to a friend I’m not actively trying to defile LDS girls.

  41. #98 by C.X.Love on October 30, 2012 - 3:59 PM

    Mid 20s
    Female
    DC
    You linked to mine!

    • #99 by theprivateman on October 30, 2012 - 5:27 PM

      You’re legendary.

      • #100 by C.X.Love on October 30, 2012 - 6:08 PM

        Yeah…I’m pretty cocky in real life also…you probably shouldn’t encourage this behavior from me! haha

  42. #101 by 3rd Millenium Men on October 30, 2012 - 4:00 PM

    Haha yousowould. Click on the video on this post to see what I think of you.

    http://3rdmilleniummen.wordpress.com/2012/10/21/flake-on-girl-fog-week-challenges/

  43. #102 by Tim on October 30, 2012 - 4:04 PM

    1. 26
    2. male
    3. Wisconsin
    4. no idea, check the usual suspects

  44. #104 by thatbengaliguy on October 30, 2012 - 4:05 PM

    25
    Male
    Dhaka, Bangladesh

    Through Chateau Heartiste I think, 7-8 months ago. Witnessing Blue Pill savagery among the family ranks. What must my ancestors be thinking now if they see things now…

  45. #106 by Trzer on October 30, 2012 - 4:07 PM

    Turned 18 today.
    Male
    Germany
    M3

    • #107 by theprivateman on October 30, 2012 - 5:26 PM

      The Manosphere has a global reach. I also have commenters from Pakistan and Bangladesh!

  46. #108 by Clarkson on October 30, 2012 - 4:25 PM

    Mid-20s
    Male
    London
    Via Roissy

    • #109 by theprivateman on October 30, 2012 - 5:25 PM

      The UK contingent of my blog readers is pretty cool.

  47. #110 by Wald on October 30, 2012 - 4:25 PM

    Don’t consider myself a regular comment so here goes.

    20
    Man
    DC

    I honest can’t remember exactly how I found you – probably through linkage from the manosphere (In Mala Fide or something similar).

    I like your blog and want to see more posts about online game – my current university situation doesn’t allow me any other options at the moment.

    • #111 by Wald on October 30, 2012 - 4:29 PM

      I may have to steal this post, by the way. I’m curious about my own blog’s number of commenters.

    • #113 by theprivateman on October 30, 2012 - 5:24 PM

      Your suggestion is good. I’ll see what I can do.

  48. #114 by Jocassee on October 30, 2012 - 4:34 PM

    25, Male, Upstate SC

    Found you linked from a post about a firearms trainer that Tam at booksbikesboomsticks.blogspot.com

    • #115 by theprivateman on October 30, 2012 - 5:24 PM

      I used to live in Greer but only for a year. Yeah, there was a woman involved.

  49. #116 by Annie on October 30, 2012 - 4:51 PM

    46
    Female
    Ontario, Canada
    PoF

    • #117 by theprivateman on October 30, 2012 - 5:23 PM

      You found me through PoF?! Can you explain?

      • #118 by Annie on October 31, 2012 - 12:17 PM

        I looked at a guy’s profile on Plenty of Fish, I thought it was yours but maybe rather one of your disciples or admirers?? and there was a link to one of your posts at the bottom. Being a curious female, I followed and was more than pleased to find insightful information about men. I changed my online dating profile based on some of that information but it’s still work in progress…

      • #119 by theprivateman on October 31, 2012 - 12:40 PM

        I don’t have any links on my online dating profiles so it must have been one of my readers and good for him. It’s even better that you followed the link and came across the Manosphere. You should tell all your friends about it.

  50. #120 by A. on October 30, 2012 - 4:53 PM

    23
    Male
    Cambridge, Mass.
    Some random blog roll.

  51. #122 by Lurker X on October 30, 2012 - 5:15 PM

    28
    Female
    SF Bay Area
    I came here via a link from Rational Male or Badgerhut, IIRC.

    Loving the blog, sir. Thanks for letting us hang out on your lawn. :)

    • #123 by theprivateman on October 30, 2012 - 5:22 PM

      Get off my lawn! Yeah, I had to say that. The irony here is that I don’t actually have a lawn.

      • #124 by Hamster Tamer on October 31, 2012 - 12:05 AM

        Lulz… until a week ago, he could envy my large former lawn, now weeds and brambles. I didn’t have to tell peeps to get off it–it looked dangerous and is–a real ankle-breaker.

        But every over-40 mon needs a metaphorical lawn, “territory” to “mark” and “defend”, a DMZ of orneriness to keep the “kids” at bay. ;^)

  52. #125 by Robin Lee fuson on October 30, 2012 - 5:28 PM

    56
    Male
    NW Oregon
    was searching for help on translating womens profiles & came across your Awful Profiles Page and have been coming back ever since. Thanks for all your efforts.

  53. #127 by CanIUseAnyNameILike? on October 30, 2012 - 5:44 PM

    20, male, Scotland. I found your blog either through MMSL or UoM. It’s a good enough blog. Needs more satire in my opinion. Keep writing.

    • #128 by theprivateman on October 30, 2012 - 6:11 PM

      “Good enough”?! Hey, I’ll take whatever good words my commenters can dish out. I did satire on another website well over a decade ago. Try Bronan the Barbarian for some good satire.

  54. #129 by walderschmidt on October 30, 2012 - 5:45 PM

    Reblogged this on Scar Tissue and commented:
    I saw this post on The Private Man’s blog and and how successful it was – and I grew curious.

    • #130 by walderschmidt on October 30, 2012 - 5:53 PM

      Apparently the reblogging did not work – please delete at your discretion, good sir.

      • #131 by theprivateman on October 30, 2012 - 6:01 PM

        Hmmmm, I wonder what went wrong…

  55. #132 by dj on October 30, 2012 - 5:47 PM

    45, male, se michigan, link from hawaiian libertarian

  56. #134 by weeeblo on October 30, 2012 - 5:57 PM

    40
    Male
    Denver CO
    Either awful profiles or another manosphere blogroll – I don’t remember

    • #135 by theprivateman on October 31, 2012 - 6:29 AM

      The awful profile page is good but hasn’t gotten a lot of new comments recently… ’tis a pity.

  57. #136 by RufusT on October 30, 2012 - 6:32 PM

    60male…..Oregon……..Got three sisters who decided they weren’t happppppy & ditched good hard workin men…..15 yrs ago my wife discovered internet porn & decided gangbangs looked like fun..We divorced…She’s been with a kinky bunch ever since…..ain’t life grand…..Found this site via link from somewhere…..

  58. #138 by anaïs on October 30, 2012 - 6:37 PM

    40, female, UK, I think Google after my husband went EPL on me.

    • #139 by theprivateman on October 31, 2012 - 6:32 AM

      Ah, the husband went EPL… that can happen, too.

      • #140 by anaïs on October 31, 2012 - 6:34 PM

        I know…

  59. #141 by hollowdman on October 30, 2012 - 6:41 PM

    27
    Male
    Minnesota
    Delusion Damage, I think.

    I’ve always liked different perspectives on the game, and not enough men your age write on these topics. Makes it a little tougher to get at wisdom when those who have it don’t share it. Anyway, I make many trips to FL, mostly Ft. Lauderdale area, and would be interested in anything you do down there.

    • #142 by theprivateman on October 31, 2012 - 6:35 AM

      There are some younger guys who do blog about Manosphere topics, check my blog roll. The next time you get down here (and away from that awful winter weather up there) drop me an email and I’ll get you to one of my upcoming classes.

  60. #143 by MattyLight on October 30, 2012 - 6:41 PM

    23
    Male
    Miami/Orlando
    Linked from Rollo
    -I do want to confirm that everything you say about South Florida is on point.

    • #144 by theprivateman on October 31, 2012 - 6:36 AM

      We need a Manosphere event in South Florida. I’m going to cogitate on that.

  61. #145 by yousowould on October 30, 2012 - 6:50 PM

    31, male, London, UMan via Roosh

  62. #147 by Scott on October 30, 2012 - 7:41 PM

    26, male, Virginia, Via Roosh probably. Like the blog, PUA/Manosphere is rank with cynicism and scorn, you waft it around it less than most.

    • #148 by theprivateman on October 31, 2012 - 6:42 AM

      Thanks for the compliment on my writing style. I prefer not to wallow in such cynicism and scorn but sometimes I can’t resist.

  63. #149 by First Mate on October 30, 2012 - 7:50 PM

    60, Female, Upper Midwest, The Red Pill Room. In a 30+ year Marriage as a First Mate to my Alpha Wolf, and I work hard to stay blonde, slim and cute. I found the man-o-sphere because I’m a researcher and I just couldn’t figure out all the women in sexless marriages, the plethora of college educated unwed mothers and fathers who are gaming each other, and the younger generation tanned bellied cock hoppers. Now I get it. Thanks for your great blog.

    • #150 by theprivateman on October 31, 2012 - 6:44 AM

      “Tanned belly cock hoppers” Brilliant! As a researcher, perhaps you can study the Manosphere.

  64. #151 by Eco on October 30, 2012 - 8:09 PM

    32. M, New York. don’t remember – I think reddit/MR

  65. #153 by Tosser on October 30, 2012 - 8:17 PM

    Late 20’s, male, Colorado. Not sure how I found this place, either Roissy or Vox.

    • #154 by theprivateman on October 31, 2012 - 6:47 AM

      Links from Roissy and Vox get me a good number of page views.

  66. #155 by Harry on October 30, 2012 - 8:27 PM

    21
    Male
    UK
    Found it after Heartiste.

  67. #157 by John on October 30, 2012 - 8:51 PM

    1. 26
    2. Male
    3. Seattle
    4. Probably HUS, actually

    • #158 by theprivateman on October 31, 2012 - 1:34 PM

      Susan’s good people but other Manosphere guys disagree.

  68. #159 by mochku on October 30, 2012 - 9:32 PM

    39, Female
    Saskatchewan, Canada
    Found you through a Google search – was looking for blogs/articles on dating over 35, as I am reentering dating world after a long hiatus.
    Enjoy your blog – always look forward to reading a new post.

    Cheers.

    • #160 by theprivateman on October 31, 2012 - 1:34 PM

      Good luck with your dating endeavors and thanks for reading my blog.

  69. #161 by Chruznic on October 30, 2012 - 9:39 PM

    1. 21
    2. Male
    3. Norway
    4. I do not remember. there was several blogs linking to you.

    • #162 by theprivateman on October 31, 2012 - 1:35 PM

      Norway cool. My last name is a very common one in Norway.

  70. #163 by mrjworthy on October 30, 2012 - 9:46 PM

    24, Male
    London England
    I don’t know how I found you but I’d say it’s a good bet I found you through the Evil Patriarchy Twitter thing. I’ve started my own blog. It’s in a lull at the moment but I’m just new in the game and trying to succeed and wanted to write about everything along the way.

    cheers to you and your ugly dog.

    • #164 by theprivateman on October 31, 2012 - 1:36 PM

      You’re at the perfect age to be taking the Red Pill. And yes, my dog is ugly.

  71. #165 by Daniel on October 30, 2012 - 9:47 PM

    Daniel
    22
    Geraldton, WA
    Followed the yellow brick road.

    • #166 by theprivateman on October 31, 2012 - 1:36 PM

      And you found my blog that way?! I gotta find that road.

  72. #167 by Long time lurker on October 30, 2012 - 10:01 PM

    48; female; Los Angeles

    I’ve been lurking since your inception but can’t quite recall where from. Have found your posts right on point for both men and women. Still thinking of what to write for my online profile (when I get back online); you can be sure that your suggestions will be closely followed :-)

    • #168 by theprivateman on October 31, 2012 - 1:38 PM

      Thank you very much. I wish you the best when you start dating. Since you’re in the LA area, consider contacting the dating coach Evan Marc Katz…he’s amazingly good.

  73. #169 by Jimmy on October 30, 2012 - 10:04 PM

    52
    Male
    San Diego,Ca
    Googled “Manosphere”and this among many other things poped up.Glad I did.Didn’t think a man my age could change so much in a year.Thanks to you and a few others I’m a happier free’er man.If I’m ever in your part of Florida will email you .Drinks on me!

  74. #171 by Josh on October 30, 2012 - 10:29 PM

    39, Male, Chicago, referred by twitter, red pill sites. Keep on bloggin’.

  75. #173 by daryl on October 30, 2012 - 10:36 PM

    50
    Male
    PCB, FL
    I’m not sure how I found you, but I’m glad I did.

  76. #175 by Peter Phoenix on October 30, 2012 - 10:47 PM

    21
    Male
    New Zealand, in the US on a 1 year work visa, thinking about moving to Austin.
    Manosphere linkage

    I’m on your lawn old man!!

    • #176 by theprivateman on October 31, 2012 - 6:26 AM

      Damned kids… messing about on my lawn. With you it’s worse… you’re a damned Kiwi!

  77. #177 by KN on October 30, 2012 - 10:59 PM

    1. 41
    2. Male
    3. Wellington, New Zealand
    4. link from another blog (probably UoMan/D&P/Dalrock/Roosh/The Red Pill Room/MMSL/? – I’m gradually getting my head around the various writing styles out there and have forgotten how I discovered most of these blogs or even which one I discovered first)

    • #178 by theprivateman on October 31, 2012 - 8:43 AM

      Another Kiwi! I’ve heard tales of New Zealand women and they aren’t good tales.

  78. #179 by Bronan the Barbarian! on October 30, 2012 - 11:53 PM

    16
    Dudebro
    Land of hipsters ‘n hippies

    I first saw you wandering around in front of the nursing home wearing nothing but a pair of kleenex boxes as slippers and a pillowcase as a makeshift loin cloth. You were shaking your bedpan at the sky and yelling something about “stay offa my lawn.” I was the dude who shot you up with thorazine while the other orderlies hog tied you and tossed you in the back of the ambulance. Cool that you have a blog now!

    • #180 by theprivateman on October 31, 2012 - 8:44 AM

      Feh, Bronan… another of the pesky kids hangin’ about my lawn. Go write a blog post or something, ya cretin.

  79. #181 by jimijonjam on October 31, 2012 - 12:06 AM

    Hey, my names Jimi, reporting live from Australia. 21 years old, found your blog through The University of Man. Your writing is informative and quite neutral in tone, which I appreciate. L

    • #182 by theprivateman on October 31, 2012 - 8:45 AM

      Many thanks. Some Manosphere bloggers are quite strong with their words. I respect that and there’s a place for that. But I think that my more measured words and phrases have an equal appeal.

      • #183 by jimijonjam on October 31, 2012 - 9:34 PM

        Quite right. Some proverb states roughly “you win more people over with soft words than with vitriol.” notice next time you hear somebody counter an argument without swearing, raising their voice or insults, and notice how much more effective they are. Softly softly, we men shall rise once again.
        Keep up the good work. It’s pretty bad here in Australia. Hooded jumpers, short nails and flip flops (“thongs”) everywhere!

  80. #184 by Random Angeleno on October 31, 2012 - 12:23 AM

    I’ve commented but sparsely here, may as well say it:

    54
    male
    Los Angeles (need to hit on ‘long time lurker’. can she dance salsa?)
    friend who pointed me to roissy way back when gave me your site too. He’s a real lurker, I’ll let him give himself away…

    • #185 by theprivateman on October 31, 2012 - 8:46 AM

      Your comments are good and feel free to comment often.

  81. #186 by Lightning Charge on October 31, 2012 - 1:16 AM

    28
    male
    the west
    I don’t recall how I found your site, but you are how I found the rest of the manosphere…

    • #187 by theprivateman on October 31, 2012 - 8:46 AM

      You win the prize for being geographically vague. But I do appreciate your readership.

  82. #188 by The Fucking Writer on October 31, 2012 - 1:52 AM

    27
    Male
    Bible Belt
    Not a lurker, but I truly don’t care. I’ll take a shit on your lawn if I want. Found you through the Manosphere. It’s been a blast!

    • #189 by theprivateman on October 31, 2012 - 8:53 AM

      I know you. You’re another one of those meddling kids.

  83. #190 by Red Pill on October 31, 2012 - 1:54 AM

    42
    Male
    Vancouver, BC
    Somebody’s blogroll, not sure who

    New to ‘manosphere’, old to ‘red pill’…

  84. #192 by Clemens on October 31, 2012 - 2:18 AM

    Mid-Thirties.
    Male.
    Zurich / Switzerland (native language being German).
    Probably through Athol’s or someone else’s blog roll.

    DAILY reader (and lurker) of your blog!
    Keep it up, dude!

    • #193 by theprivateman on October 31, 2012 - 8:55 AM

      Quite the large international readership I have. Since you read daily, does this mean I have to post daily? Yikes, that’s a lot of blog posts!

      • #194 by Clemens on November 2, 2012 - 2:17 AM

        I keep on checking daily and enjoy every new post :-) They give me a boost and new ideas in order to maintain that resistance against all those feminist manjaw wymynz and manginas around me.

        What’s nice about your blog is the usual shortness and straight-to-the-point character of your posts.

  85. #195 by Anon on October 31, 2012 - 2:24 AM

    41
    Male
    Chicago
    from Roosh’s site somehow

    • #196 by theprivateman on October 31, 2012 - 9:01 AM

      Thanks for the comment and your eyeballs on my blog.

  86. #197 by JF on October 31, 2012 - 2:46 AM

    23; Female; Vancouver; and I can’t remember how I found you. It was probably just through browsing random blogs.

    • #198 by theprivateman on October 31, 2012 - 9:01 AM

      Ah, web surfing blogs, were ya? Hey, however you found me, it’s cool. Thanks!

  87. #199 by Roland3337 on October 31, 2012 - 2:56 AM

    48, male, Pennsylvania, and I do not recall. I’ve been reading for probably a year, and it has been a red pill source since that time.

    • #200 by theprivateman on October 31, 2012 - 9:19 AM

      The Red Pill is bitter medicine for some guys. I do hope you it’s an easy process for you.

  88. #201 by Deli on October 31, 2012 - 3:51 AM

    27
    Male
    Moscow, Russia
    Ian Ironwood’s blog

  89. #203 by Jayzhere on October 31, 2012 - 4:08 AM

    42
    Male
    Ethiopia

    Linked through from somewhere else, don’t remember but likely UMan, Rational Male or some such.

  90. #205 by Rodeo42 on October 31, 2012 - 4:45 AM

    31
    Male
    California
    Link probably from rollo or u of man which I dearly miss.

    • #206 by theprivateman on October 31, 2012 - 9:27 AM

      Other bloggers will likely fill the vacuum left by University of Man. And thanks for your readership.

  91. #207 by Rafael on October 31, 2012 - 5:18 AM

    38
    Male
    Blumenau – Brasil

  92. #209 by Bolkie on October 31, 2012 - 5:43 AM

    30
    Male
    Rotterdam, the Netherlands
    Can’t really remember, probably via either Chateau or Rational Male

    • #210 by theprivateman on October 31, 2012 - 9:28 AM

      I’m beginning to think my international readership is much bigger than I originally thought. Thanks for reading my blog.

  93. #211 by Before the Deluge on October 31, 2012 - 6:40 AM

    46, Male, Irish expat in Southern Spain

    Discovered Chateau Heartiste about 6 months ago and have now assembled a roster of Manosphere blogs that I check regularly, your good self included. It’s always good to get different perspectives. I like yours because you sound about my age and with a similar personality type (quietly confident, f’ckd if you’re going to be anyone’s dancing monkey)

    You and a few others prove what I knew already, you do not need to be super extrovert to swoop. Quiet confidence, frame and attitude are what counts. I kinda, sorta internalised this over the years, but it’s always good to see it laid out in black and white, which helps to crystalise it.

    Keep up the good work.

    • #212 by theprivateman on October 31, 2012 - 9:48 AM

      We are indeed roughly the same age. Thanks for the encouragement.

  94. #213 by slakbarsted on October 31, 2012 - 6:43 AM

    36, Male, Sydney, AU
    Discovered you through the manosphere and very grateful to have discovered it!!

  95. #215 by infowarrior1 on October 31, 2012 - 7:07 AM

    18, Male, Sydney Australia

    Through the blog of elusive wapiti

  96. #217 by Gregarious Wolf on October 31, 2012 - 7:45 AM

    41 year old male from Houston. The red pill was bitter going down after my divorce. I think I found Rooshv first. It is deepest in my bookmarks. From there…

    • #218 by theprivateman on October 31, 2012 - 9:56 AM

      A lot of guys resist the Red Pill and for good reason. Such wisdom flies in the face of social expectations and years of blue pill brain-washing.

  97. #219 by maestro on October 31, 2012 - 7:49 AM

    55, male, Yorks, UK, link from MMSL.

    • #220 by theprivateman on October 31, 2012 - 9:56 AM

      Hey, a guy from Yorkshire… my first ex wife spent a year at the University of York.

  98. #221 by 3rd Millenium Men on October 31, 2012 - 7:53 AM

    3MM are all in their twenties, male and in Europe/USA. Found you through the Manosphere more broadly, can’t remember which blog! Keep the great posts coming!

    • #222 by theprivateman on October 31, 2012 - 9:57 AM

      You guys are doing well. Keep at it. With persistence will come some interesting rewards.

  99. #223 by Solo on October 31, 2012 - 8:16 AM

    41
    Male
    Johannesburg, South Africa
    Cannot recall how I ended up here, probably through Danny504, Red Pill Room or UMan.
    Although married I find it helpful to read about Game from various perspectives, its gives one a better..well…perspective.

    • #224 by theprivateman on October 31, 2012 - 9:58 AM

      I assume you’re reading Athol Kay’s book and blog…

  100. #225 by Know Thyself on October 31, 2012 - 8:56 AM

    Male, 28
    Boston Area
    From Hawaiian libertarian.

    Recently introduced to manosphere. Please keep up the good work.

    • #226 by theprivateman on October 31, 2012 - 9:59 AM

      Boston, my home town… what, ahr ya fuckin’ retahded? Sorry, couldn’t resist. And my readers should know that not everyone in Boston has that accent.

  101. #227 by Anonymous on October 31, 2012 - 9:16 AM

    49 yr. old female and her 21yr. old daughter from N. Carolina, we found you through other blogs.
    I took what is now known as the “red pill” over ten years ago. When my daughter wanted to better understand the current male perspective and why she isn’t meeting the type of man/men she is looking for, one like her father, we went looking for answers.
    You site has been helpful for her. Thanks.

    • #228 by theprivateman on October 31, 2012 - 10:00 AM

      The most hopeful comment yet… thanks so much.

      • #229 by Anonymous on October 31, 2012 - 10:59 AM

        No, thank you. Your blog is helpful and we haven’t been treated harshly when we dare ask a question, unlike some sites, one in which I was really surprised at the attitude I encountered considering the poignant header. The anger turned my daughter off for a while, but drove me to find out what was behind it so I started searching. Allow me to tell you and your gentlemen readers out there that all is not lost on American women. Some are getting it, look for them and reward their good behavior.
        I think intutitively young women are starting to wake up and realise the teachings of the previous genereation were false and while I can not see us returning to the days of pre-feminism, I do see the Manosphere hearlding a time of accountablity for women that will change their current mode of thinking because in the end hetro women innately want to be in a relationship with men and will do what is required to be done to make that happen. Remember you hold the keys gentlmen, now jingle them where the ladies can see and hear them.
        Everytime you get a chance to expouse red pill wisdom do. I do, sometimes it has to be ever so subtle as I live in a very liberal town and have to be careful. My daughter does in her actions and words at college and has seen two of her five roommates change for the better. I hope your readers will do the same. Change is coming but it is slow as always.
        Privateman keep being a voice of change.

  102. #230 by Pavoneo on October 31, 2012 - 9:44 AM

    22
    Man
    North Alabama
    No clue, probably through Roissy/Roosh/VK/D&P. This quickly turned into one of my regular reads, though

  103. #232 by Emma the Emo on October 31, 2012 - 10:06 AM

    24, female, Oslo (Norway). Found your blog through many other blogs, then re-found it through M3’s blog ;) Not a big lurker here, but an occasional lurker nontheless.

    • #233 by theprivateman on October 31, 2012 - 10:27 AM

      I’ve seen you comment on other blogs. Thanks for commenting here! By the way, my grandfather was born in Norway

      • #234 by Emma the Emo on October 31, 2012 - 12:55 PM

        Cool :) I’m not really Norwegian though, I’m from Russia originally.

  104. #235 by Michael on October 31, 2012 - 10:50 AM

    45, Male, central Canada
    Found thru MMSL.
    Wife decided she was not haaaaaappppy (for no apparent reason), started talking divorce. I started looking for answers. I found the Manosphere and took the Red Pill. It helped. I’m not sure if it was in time to save my marriage or not, I’m not sure I care. Apparently, everything I was told about women in my youth was a lie. Thank you and the Manosphere for the education.

    • #236 by theprivateman on October 31, 2012 - 11:36 AM

      ” Apparently, everything I was told about women in my youth was a lie.” I just tweeted that, thanks!

  105. #237 by TexasSAHM on October 31, 2012 - 11:10 AM

    36, Female, Houston, TX
    I first found you through MMSL, and came over today from M3’s blog to delurk.

    • #238 by theprivateman on October 31, 2012 - 11:37 AM

      New verb, “delurk”. It has a nice ring to it.

  106. #239 by Miss Mildred on October 31, 2012 - 11:24 AM

    Hello, Private Man.

    41, female, Texas.

    I’ve been lurking on your blog and other red pill blogs for about 6 months. I can’t recall the specifics, but I stumbled across your blog when I began searching for dating advice for women from a male perspective. Wait – now that I’m really thinking about it, I probably linked to your site via Roissy’s.

    Your writing has been tremendously helpful to me, though at times I find your style to be a bit too cynical and acerbic. I guess that’s the point, really – taking pills isn’t supposed to be fun ;) Your advice to women about focusing on a man’s good qualities using your women’s exercise is pure gold. I also found your online profile writing advice to be useful as well.

    Thank you for sharing your thoughts and talent with all of us.

    • #240 by theprivateman on October 31, 2012 - 11:42 AM

      And thanks for your kind words about my blog and how it has helped you.

  107. #241 by Rik Johnson on October 31, 2012 - 11:31 AM

    51, Male, Seattle, WA.

    I think I linke through In Mala Fide, or one of the many other manosphere blogs.

  108. #243 by Beppo Venerdì on October 31, 2012 - 11:46 AM

    28
    Male
    Columbus, OH
    Found via Roissy (I think, it’s been awhile)

    • #244 by theprivateman on October 31, 2012 - 11:50 AM

      Ah, the venerable Beppo. That’s a fine blog you have.

  109. #245 by Sarah on October 31, 2012 - 12:00 PM

    28, female, Indiana. About 6 months ago my husband suggested my brother start reading your blog (I think he found you through Dalrock) so I got on to see exactly what he was trying to corrupt my baby brother with, though it turns out it really was something my brother needed to read. He’s a great guy but waaaay too nice, and he dates too many entitled princesses. I found your blog entertaining and I like what you have to say so I read when I have free time.

    • #246 by theprivateman on October 31, 2012 - 12:45 PM

      I hope your brother learns and internalizes the things that the Manosphere teaches. Thanks!

  110. #247 by damngringo on October 31, 2012 - 12:24 PM

    25
    Male
    UK
    I think via Heartiste / Roosh / UMan or similar. Started searching for answers when my relationship gone sour (it should not have been there in the first place!)

    • #248 by theprivateman on October 31, 2012 - 12:45 PM

      You live in the UK and you call yourself “damngringo”? I like it.

      • #249 by damngringo on November 1, 2012 - 5:52 AM

        Enhanced self-awareness lol

  111. #250 by TempestTcup on October 31, 2012 - 12:40 PM

    50
    Female
    Downtown, Middle America
    I found the Manosphere through Hawaiian libertarian’s Paleo Baby post about a year ago, and it has been very enlightening. I immediately quit the shit-tests, quit nagging, grew my hair out, and adopted the “never say no” stance. I quit leading and making the decisions. I had already been mostly Paleo for over a year, so I already looked awesome :)

    • #251 by theprivateman on October 31, 2012 - 12:46 PM

      Refreshing and hopefully other women will see the benefits of Red Pill wisdom.

  112. #252 by cadders on October 31, 2012 - 12:43 PM

    Male, 47, UK, linked from Hawaiian Libertarian.

    Took the the red pill about three and half years ago and still trying deal with the realisation that the first 19 years of my marriage could have been as good as the last – for both me and my wife.

  113. #254 by fearthereaper on October 31, 2012 - 12:47 PM

    23
    Male
    Haifa Israel
    Jack Donovan’s blog

    • #255 by theprivateman on October 31, 2012 - 1:27 PM

      Cool, Israel. Shalom and all that. I thought Israeli guys were some serious alpha types, is that true?

  114. #256 by aggysbrew on October 31, 2012 - 1:15 PM

    28, female, Kenya. I found my way here after a search for good profile advice. Followed the breadcrumbs and here I am. Your topics resonate even back here where most of the young guys in town are settling to be Betas and bowing to women. Its frustrating. I am from the last city-kids generation which saw our fathers lead the family. Now there’s a new breed of women in town telling us its okay to take over. It wasn’t broken, why fix it? Am spreading word of this blog to all my friends. Thank you.

    • #257 by theprivateman on October 31, 2012 - 1:25 PM

      Wow, it’s even going on in Africa. Astounding. Thanks for spreading the word of my blog and the Manosphere.

  115. #258 by notafranny on October 31, 2012 - 1:21 PM

    Hi! I’m female, 46 years old and live in the PNW. Found your blog through moxie.

    • #259 by theprivateman on November 1, 2012 - 6:41 AM

      Clever user name you have there. And Moxie’s good people… a bit prickly on the outside, however.

      • #260 by notafranny on November 1, 2012 - 3:30 PM

        Thanks so much! A “franny” is a sponge-mom-sweatpants, which of course I’m not ;) Love the blog, read all the archives and spread the wisdom of the manosphere here where things tend to be a bit backwards. I have a 22yo son and do not intend for him to get stuck in the beta/blue pill lifestyle, helllll no! He’s getting it, no more special snowflakes for him!

  116. #261 by YB on October 31, 2012 - 4:01 PM

    46 years old, male, New Zealand, came here from Chateau Heartiste. Late poster lol.

    • #262 by theprivateman on October 31, 2012 - 5:05 PM

      Hey, comments are always open! Thanks for arriving.

  117. #263 by Mark on October 31, 2012 - 7:16 PM

    Male, 43, Seattle.
    I’m the one who turned Amber onto the Manosphere.
    Not sure how I got to this blog. Probably either Roosh or UMan.
    My eyes started opening after my heart was broken.
    Weirdly, the woman who broke my heart was not my ex-wife (I was very lucky in my escape there).

    • #264 by theprivateman on November 1, 2012 - 6:39 AM

      It usually takes a broken heart to motivate a man to take the Red Pill.

  118. #265 by Lynn in DC on October 31, 2012 - 10:19 PM

    54
    F
    DC
    I think I found this blog through a search for dating and relationships. Private Man, I enjoy reading your blog. You provide much food for thought and encouraged me to take a hard look at the “entitled princess” still in me. Keep up the good work.

    PS. Your dog is a cutie. No way is she ugly.

    • #266 by theprivateman on November 1, 2012 - 6:46 AM

      Please, spread the word! My dog is ugly, I stand behind that assertion.

  119. #267 by Akmed on October 31, 2012 - 11:37 PM

    29
    Male
    Mexico City.
    Don´t remember.

    Thanks for sharing your insights and experiences thru the internet.
    Keep the good stuff.

  120. #269 by JC on November 1, 2012 - 12:38 AM

    34, male, Pittsburgh area, can’t remember original linkage.

  121. #271 by Ozz on November 1, 2012 - 1:17 AM

    37
    Female
    Australia
    I found your blog either linked from someone elses or maybe a comment you made somewhere…can’t remember exactly.

    • #272 by theprivateman on November 1, 2012 - 10:23 AM

      The Australian contingent is bigger than I thought. Thanks for the comment!

  122. #273 by spudgun on November 1, 2012 - 5:21 AM

    Man, 41, London.
    I just rode my motorbike right across your lawn. Looks like you’ve got some groundwork to do there now.
    Lurked for a year, but like the rest of my life I’m not actually sure how I got here.
    Virtual pint!

    • #274 by theprivateman on November 1, 2012 - 10:23 AM

      Well, your motorbike sucks! Thanks for the comment, however.

  123. #275 by rgoltn on November 1, 2012 - 9:53 AM

    45, Male, Nashville…found it via other manosphere blogs. Married and transforming myself after taking the “red pill.” Working on making my marriage stronger day-by-day.

  124. #277 by legalbeagle on November 1, 2012 - 10:05 AM

    31, Male, Birmingham, AL. Found your place via Danny. Excellent writing. I also rather like your writing style. I’m an early 30’s professional and the elder among my social circle. It’s nice to have someone that has seen a bit more of the world than I have and doesn’t feel the need to come to me for advice.

    • #278 by theprivateman on November 1, 2012 - 10:25 AM

      Send those guys over here. Or send them to the Roosh forum.

  125. #279 by JackSparrah on November 1, 2012 - 11:52 AM

    I’m a little late to the party, but why not.. Have been lurking for long enough.

    27, Male, Canada

    Hard to say exactly how I found you… It was so long ago now. If memory serves right, it was from one of Athol Kay’s posts that linked here. Either that, or somewhere between Chateau Heartiste, Real Assanova (do I ever miss his blog) and Badger’s Hut.

    Whatever it was, I’ve been a devoted reader ever since, and the journey has been eye-opening. So thank you!

    • #280 by theprivateman on November 1, 2012 - 6:06 PM

      Lurkers gotta lurk? Yeah, Assanova was pretty cool stuff.

  126. #281 by tj on November 1, 2012 - 12:19 PM

    TJ – 48, Madison, WI, man

    Found thru a manosphere blog like Dalrock or someone like that. Always enjoy the read and the emphasis that women are not all evil bitchez1!1!1!11

    • #282 by theprivateman on November 1, 2012 - 6:09 PM

      Yeah, the “evil bitchez!1!1!11″ thing ain’t my style. I’d rather understand women and not alienate them.

  127. #283 by jg on November 1, 2012 - 8:45 PM

    44, Male, Nashville via Hawaiian Libertarian.

    • #284 by theprivateman on November 6, 2012 - 3:08 PM

      Thanks for reading my blog and thanks for posting your comment.

  128. #285 by Sp5 on November 3, 2012 - 4:34 AM

    56, U.S. international development worker living overseas.

    Can’t remember how I got here, but it started when I found out my wife was cheating on me with her “first love” from 34 years ago – after 32 years of marriage. She found him on Facebook, and I went online looking for advice – first at Talking About Marriage forums.

    • #286 by theprivateman on November 6, 2012 - 3:09 PM

      Athol is all about the Talking About Marriage forum. It’s good stuff he writes there.

  129. #287 by Celeste on November 3, 2012 - 3:29 PM

    23, Female, US, found you through either Roissy or Dalrock, I found them thru feminist blogs, was immediately repulsed by Roissy, but slowly came around to the red pill side

    • #288 by LostSailor on November 3, 2012 - 5:53 PM

      Roissy is the hardcore Red Pill dispenser. But he was the one I found first. Yes, hard reading, but a crash course. I learned to take from his writing what I found useful and leave the rest.

    • #289 by theprivateman on November 6, 2012 - 3:10 PM

      Roissy is brutally honest with the focus on brutal. Glad you found the Red Pill.

  130. #290 by Gomel on November 3, 2012 - 4:54 PM

    26
    Male
    NYC
    Twitter manosphere

    • #291 by theprivateman on November 6, 2012 - 3:11 PM

      I’m very glad I use Twitter. It’s gotten me a bunch of new readers.

  131. #292 by Anthony - Rehabilitated Hack Writer on November 3, 2012 - 6:45 PM

    40-ish, Male, Redmond, WA.

    A link of off Captain Capitalism. Researching gender relationships and their impact to economic systems for a novel.

  132. #294 by Jay on November 3, 2012 - 7:19 PM

    26, Male, St. Louis, One night googling manosphere topics.

    • #295 by theprivateman on November 6, 2012 - 3:12 PM

      Yeah, there are a lot of Manosphere blogs to explore. Check my blogroll (which needs some maintenance)

  133. #296 by ar10308 on November 3, 2012 - 9:50 PM

    28, Male, Baltimore.
    Probably through when I opened the floodgates on the Manosphere after spending a few months reading Roissy. Maybe through Dalrock or someone like that.

    • #297 by theprivateman on November 6, 2012 - 3:13 PM

      Roissy was one of my first reads when I started to learn more about PUA.

  134. #298 by A♠ on November 3, 2012 - 10:04 PM

    Far from a lurker but I’ll give some info, regardless:

    1} 40

    2} Male

    3} Philadelphia

    4} Long ago by Roissy→Roosh→you

  135. #299 by J on November 4, 2012 - 7:10 AM

    Early 50s, M, South FL

    Don’t remember how I found your blog.

    I read mainly CH, which is brilliant if a bit too cynical and groupthink prone. I read your blog because you are close to my age, live in my area and have thoughtful online-dating suggestions.

    A South FL meetup sounds like fun.

    • #300 by theprivateman on November 6, 2012 - 3:15 PM

      There’s a new page at the top of my blog, “Spring Break 2013″. I’ll be posting up some details as they unfold.

  136. #301 by jaegerb0mb on November 4, 2012 - 12:54 PM

    44, Male, Southern AZ

  137. #302 by lurkmcgurk on November 4, 2012 - 11:15 PM

    Let me try this one more time.
    Male, 34, Bronx
    From no-maam’s blog links

  138. #304 by rhino on November 5, 2012 - 4:36 PM

    35, Male, Boston, RM blogroll
    thank you PM

  139. #306 by Penis on November 7, 2012 - 7:10 PM

    age penis
    gender penis
    location uranus
    how i found your blog tits

  140. #308 by Stig on November 7, 2012 - 9:31 PM

    Five-oh.

    Washington DC

    Male

    I found you, Badger, Dalrock, Athol, Ian Ironwood and the late lamented Ferd and UMan after a happenstance look at an article about Manosphere blogs set me googling to see if you all had any answer to the question of why so many relationships (like mine) are so totally unsatisfactory.

  141. #310 by R. on November 8, 2012 - 10:43 AM

    29, male, Porto Alegre – Brazil

    I did post some comments before, but just a few… I consider myself a lurker. Most of the times, when I think of posting something, someone already posted similar thoughts… as I am lazy, then I just don’t do it. :)

    Found you after a friend had some relationship problems and I ended up in a “hardcore” MRM (if they could be really called that) forum… I could see that they had something going on, I could fell the “truth” behind it, but they were too blinded by rage to see it.

    After that, searching lead me to MMSL, Badger, Ian, and yourself. It is amazing how the red pill changes your view about almost everything around. I am engaged to a very good woman right now, but I do sometimes feel like I could have enjoyed my single life a lot better had I found this knowledge before I entered this relationship…. I was a very shy young man that doubted of his own skills and “handsomeness” too much, even while inserted into a context where I had a lot of advantage. Pretty dumb, right? I expected to teach all this to my future son (if I ever have one) while he can still enjoy it. Right now, I am using all the insights I find in the manosphere to improve my current relationship.

    Anyway, your blog is one that I can send to blue pill friends safely, without being afraid to scare ‘em off. Keep up the good work, thank you.

  142. #311 by S on November 9, 2012 - 12:07 AM

    18, F, The Universe,

    Definitely found your blog through HUS :) Keep up the good work, PM. Thanks for all the advice.

  143. #312 by Cesar MDRD on November 11, 2012 - 7:21 PM

    24. Male from Mexico City. Through Bronan’s Twitter account about 3 months ago.

  144. #313 by Shinzaemon on November 18, 2012 - 5:38 PM

    Yo Private Man,
    38yr old Bitter Divorced Guy over here. I live around D. C. Any chance you D.C. Players want to meet? My friends are a disgrace to the word wing man.

    I started following your blog after the insightful comments you made at Dalrock’s and HUS. You are one of the best bloggers out there. Keep up the good work, we divorced guys back in the game need it.

    Also, you replied to a email I sent you and that was truly a honor. Oh btw way when are you finishing your fucking Dating book already?

  145. #314 by kpramod on November 19, 2012 - 6:18 PM

    25, M, Indiana. Student. Came through http://rationalmale.wordpress.com/

  146. #315 by Randy on December 12, 2012 - 4:52 PM

    55, Male, Northern California. Found the blog while looking up info on practicing Brazillian Jui Jitsu in Brazil. Signed up because I’m single, plan on remaining single and plan on traveling as a single. Which is something you are doing and have experience at. I am more than willing to learn from others experience’s.

  147. #316 by Ryan Toll on December 19, 2012 - 3:45 PM

    25, male, Portland, OR.

    I found you through A Voice for Men, if I recall correctly.

  148. #317 by Manningup on December 30, 2012 - 1:04 AM

    49
    Male
    NYC areA
    Web search re: “when a woman compliments you”(linked to your post concerning it)
    Currently devouring as many posts as possible

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