I’ve mentioned Athol K in the past. He’s using many elements of Game to help manage his marriage. I support him on that and wish him every success. Hopefully he’ll be featured on the Dr. Phil television show.
This post is about The Slut Wife. It’s a real blog written by a real wife. “My Husband Is Happier Than Yours” is the tag line to her blog. I absolutely love that line. It says so much about the dynamic of the Slut Wife’s marriage. The element of competition with other women is an excellent punchline.
It’s almost in today’s politically correct environment, it’s almost a heresy for a married woman to state how much she wants to make her husband happy. Amazingly, they live in very left-wing part of the west coast. Her’s is a relatively new blog and isn’t heavily laden with posts.
Her posts usually interesting because she’s thoughtful and has good introspection regarding herself and her own character. She freely admits that she’s sexy and loves male attention. She also takes pleasure in enhancing her sex appeal as she posts frequently about sexy clothes; complete with some eye-candy type photos (not of herself, by the way).
While I talk about Game for men in the context of being single, it’s good that a married woman understands female Game in the context of her own marriage. She also knows what appeals to most men,political correctness notwithstanding. Some feminists might claim that the Slut Wife is objectifying herself “for the menz” but I have a hunch that the Slut Wife’s response would be “fuck you very much”.
She does give advice that I find a bit sketchy. She also has way too many guy friends (some are even exes) who she describes as “hot”. Let’s assume her husband is like Athol in the alpha male department regarding the Slut Wife’s male friends.
I urge everyone to check out her blog. The Slut Wife might even make it into the Manosphere. It would be good for her to pick up some extra traffic. That should motivate her the write more.
Athol Kay: Married Man Sex Life
/ May 4, 2011LOL everyone wants me to face off with Dr. Phil for some reason. In truth I’ve adapted some of his stuff into mine.
Thanks for the link love though!
NMH
/ May 4, 2011Its interesting you like her so much. I see positives and negatives with her but the net for me is negative. The great positive with her is that she is hot (ie extremely sexually attractive) and loves to show off her looks to turn her man on, which of course is a huge positive. The hottest relationship I was in was like this, years ago ,where I dated a cougar who was like this. I still think about the sex with her after 15 years. Sometimes, I think Roissy’s remark that “5 minutes of alpha equals 5 years of beta applies to men as well..
The great negative with “wifey” is her huge ego. She claimed on one blog that her IQ was 145, and on one post on her site she implied that her looks have give her an inordinately sized ego. The danger here is if she thinks too highly of herself and acts on hypergamy, which all women innately have, and dumps her husband and trades up. (I suspect the “rito rhinoplasty” who posts her site is her mentally-cuckolded husband).
Im pretty sure that is what my brothers present wife did. She is a total 9 (body and face) with big boobs, who dumped her husband because he was not ambitious enough inevitably. My husband has a hot looking woman to fuck, which of course is always a plus, but in the end I think the chances of her leaving him or having an affair with someone higher up are good, especially since he recently quit his high status job due to stress.
In my experience, big boobs + pretty face = huge ego and danger of acting on hypergamy. No thanks.
Hughman
/ May 4, 2011Hmm, I’d like to see a pic of her, never can trust a woman. I think her IQ is in the 130 to 140 bracket, it’s a rare woman who can self-analyse so well.
I think she just genuinely enjoys sex (4 or 5 times a day apparently, Jesus, that’s some stamina they both have) but likes the security of her husband.
Will they last? She calls him ‘boy’ on occasion, and a Type B personality. My money is that unless he expands his ambitions with his business, aka ‘mans up’, it won’t.
Still, an entertaining quick read (there’s like 10 posts total). She made a good point of watching porn together: you’re fucking, so what’s so taboo about it? I find my old flames I liked the best were the ones I could be most open with (in terms of sexuality)
Paige
/ May 7, 2011Wifey is a very modern woman, but she is a modern woman that loves sex and in my experience this is really what men want. They want a woman who wants them physically above all else. If she is demure and feminine etc etc that is a plus, but everything can be looked over for good sex.
I like what Athol says about high-stim verses low-stim people. High-stim women often have high sex-drives and are high-achievers in just about every area of life. They also have a very high standard of living and they become discontent more easily. They want and expect a good life with much excitement, and if you aren’t going to get on board with that you will be left in the dust. They aren’t stay at home with babies while there men go to the pub every night. They aren’t going to tolerate a drop in libido for very long. They are probably going to struggle with emotional affairs throughout their marriage and it will take extreme self-control not to act on them. They don’t necessarily need their man to make a lot of money (usually because they make plenty) but they do need their man to keep up with their appearance and be VERY good in bed.
I think Wifey is a text-book high-stim woman.
Hope
/ May 7, 2011“Its interesting you like her so much. I see positives and negatives with her but the net for me is negative.”
Same here. I’m not competitive with my female friends about how much happier my husband is than their husbands. I know I’m not some super hot girl, just slightly above average, but our love is not solely based on physical stuff. We’re both relatively low-stim people as Paige mentioned. So we’re not going to compare our marriage to other people’s marriage in some kind of ultra competition.
As far as male attention goes, it’s a bad thing for a wife to crave. I have no male friends. I satisfy a lot of my social urges by talking to my female friends. There is absolutely zero risk there of opposite sex attraction. They are all married and many with kids.
Phoenix
/ May 7, 2011I saw an episode of “Speeders” where cops pull people over for traffic violations and they record the interaction between the cops and the drivers.
One driver that was pulled over was a good-looking guy (I’d give him an 8, no I’m not homo) who had a drop-dead gorgeous blondie with him in the car. They just got married.
He ended up fighting with her and said to the camera “guys, don’t get married”. He was driving his wife to get her nails done and she was complaining of being late. Like, holy shit.
The guy was OK with his game, trying to stay in control of the situation and not make a big deal that he ran a red light or something. But SHE was viciously tearing him down.
Hamster Tamer
/ April 25, 2012A subconscious cry for face-down anal if I ever read it. Will straighten out the disrespectful, manicure-crazed new wife right quick. Spanking is foreplay. Divorce pre-kids is SOOOOooo much better and easier than the other way.
An unexpected contact with The Law Enforcement Establishment–even for a traffic citation–is a crystal clear, GOLD STANDARD moment for evaluating the character of the wimminz you decided was quality enough to birth and raise YOUR CHILDREN… so much so that it might be worth DELIBERATELY getting pulled over during the “about to get engaged” stage of duh relationship. (Wish I’d thought of that back when… )
When pulled over by the law, the ONLY acceptable behavior from female passengers is: hands in plain sight, and STFU. Speak ONLY if cop or hubby/BF asks you something. Shortest simplest answers, no rambling aloud about how “impo’tant” manicures are in the grand scheme of things.
Contrite, polite, demure…cooperative, TEAM player. ANYthing else, ANY bit of attitude, hit the figurative “EJECT” button.
NMH
/ May 9, 2011To me, its remarkable how the correlation between a womans SMV and difficult personality holds. If a woman goes up 1 point in SMV your game to control her has to go up a level which probably would not be a natural adjustment.
I really believe that a man has a choice between a woman who is not sexy but loyal or a woman who is sexy but you must have tight control over using game for her to stay loyal. Alpha’s naturally have this game, but if you are a beta with a lot of social and professional rejection under your belt the game you need to control a sexy woman would be very unnatural