Archive for March, 2011
One of this blog’s faithful readers waxed poetic about his pessimism of finding the woman of this dreams.’
I’ve become extremely suspicious and pessimistic about the possibility of dating successful, educated, and professional women. Their standards for a man are just ridiculously high and most are not interesting and good looking enough to ask for what they demand. I get tired of being interesting, entertaining, and humorous when I get little in return except self-absorbed drivel from a woman who has little sense of humor.
Let’s break it down quickly and succinctly. His pessimism stems from just five problems with today’s modern, American woman:
2. “Never settle!”
3. The demand for instant chemistry
4. Extreme selfishness
5. No respect for men
Of all five, only one is truly rooted in the biological imperative. That’s hypergamy. A woman’s brain is wired to be hypergamous. Ironically, it’s easier for a man to deal with this. He simply becomes a better man. A man must learn and implement Game.
The other four, well, that’s rather more challenging. While a man, as an individual, can learn and implement Game, there must a shift in overall social expectations to address the other issues in the list. It will be glacially slow. Changing social expectations usually takes at least a generation (that’s about 30 years) but with the ability to communicate electronically and almost instantly, social change can be accelerated.
There must be a constant drumbeat of negative messages and negative stigma from all sides should a woman be suffering from one or more of the other problems in the list.
- “Never settle” must be met with “everyone settles”.
- The demand for instant chemistry must be met with “stop thinking with your genitals”.
- Selfishness must be met with “that’s for children, grow up.”
- No respect for men must be met with “you’re a bigot”.
Men have been made to dance to the tune of women’s capricious and arbitrary demands for the two generations of feminism indoctrination and it’s failed miserably. Now is the time for men to play the tune and insist that women live up to a form of the revised social contract.
Men grieve too.
CNN did a good story on the recent Japan disasters, here.
It’s a quick and surprisingly good article.
A man’s grief is powerful, no matter what the culture.
May the tragic sadness of Kenichi Suzuki be engraved on our souls.
He sacrificed his family for his job, his volunteer job.
It’s heart breaking.
I love classical music. I’m also open to interesting interpretations of various famous works.
This is from a young ukulele performer in Hawaii. She is Taimani Gardner and I am extraordinarily impressed with her skills (hat tip to Gorbachev from over at Roissy).
And here I thought that the ukulele was only able to perform Hawaiian music. I have been soundly and thoroughly disabused of this notion.
J.S. Bach should be celebrating this version of his famous Toccata and Fugue in D Minor.
As an aside, I am always impressed by anyone – male or female – with artistic talent. This is one of the reasons that I am so desirous of T, the incredible artist. I started “dating” her over a year ago and sadly, I have not enjoyed the pleasure of her company in at least two months.
Oh, here’s another great song from a Hawaiian performer – Iz. He died from complications due to his obesity.
I don’t know if the embedding feature works. If not, hit the link. Now.
“I don’t know… I mean…you could maybe… talk to the girl next to her? You know, make her feel jealous?”
“Hand of God, kid… I never felt like you were my son… until now.”
Tip of the ol’ hat to a Roissy comment.
For the most part, the private sector work environment is a masculine place. The business of making money has little to do with emotions. The capitalistic marketplace is the realm of logic and reason in order to create and sell profitable goods and services. It’s really that simple. If there is not enough profit, there is no point creating that service or that item.
Men have historically dominated this social and economic realm. In the last two generations, women have entered the workforce. That didn’t change the essential rules of capitalism. Women had to adapt and they often did so out of economic necessity. Women adapted reasonably well. They adopted masculine traits to cope and succeed. Having such traits is not necessarily a bad thing in the right context.
The problem is the transition back to home and hearth, there is none. A woman is still in work mode when she returns home. There are tasks to organize, things to manage, kids to herd. A woman’s work (and career) is never done, after all. Whither the husband or significant other? He’s likely a beta. He’s toiled his day in the trench cubicles taking orders all the while. He’ll happily defer to the woman’s relationship leadership despite losing her respect for him. He’s used to it. His mom, single of course, told him to be nice and follow orders.
What if she’s married or committed to an alpha man? If she wants to maintain that relationship, she must transition to a feminine role in a brief span of time. That span is 35 minutes, about the average commute time. In that period of time, she must embrace her feminine nature so she can be the loving wife/significant other that she is supposed to be. Of course, if she truly loves her man, embracing her feminine nature for him comes naturally and without much thought. In fact, she should be thinking of that while she is still at work. Suggestion to all the guys in long term relationships: read Athol K (Married Man Sex Life).
If her man is a sad sack beta, the transition from masculine to feminine is a serious struggle. The woman sits in traffic and wonders “why I am doing this?”. She then fires up her audio book of Eat, Pray, Love (turning off NPR) and makes a mental note to tally up her man’s finances and then to look up divorce attorneys while he is having fun with the kids.
A Star Trek reference ahead.
This clip is not even three minutes and encompasses much of Game.
Amazing frame, preselection, higher value, asshole Game, it’s all there.
Khan has large, granite balls.
The man who wrote the dialog in that scene must have been quite the player.
Hat tip to a Roissy blog comment.
There once was a time when men had formal gathering places where women were simply not allowed. Such a place might have been a country club, a yacht club, a fraternal organization, or a business organization.
It’s probable that men got together to discuss ideas – politics, business, society, and women. Women were important to men back then. Most of the men doing the talking were likely married and many likely had daughters. If not married, the men would likely be actively pursuing marriage.
It is a pity that they are no transcripts of the informal discussions amongst those men gathered in those exclusively male environments. Such a record would be remarkable for documenting social history. Perhaps a reader can point to a good book or a source some social history on men’s clubs.
As feminism became an increasingly powerful political force, the men-only institutions came under attack. Some just shut their doors, others allowed women to join. With women present, it is likely that a great deal of self-censorship took place. Mustn’t offend the women folk, after all.
Those feminists sought access to those formal gathering places for equality, at least that’s what they said. I have a different theory. I believe that the feminists were scared that the men were conspiring against them; that men were were whispering unpleasant truths about women. The men were discussing ideas that might be dangerous to the new ideology. So, like using baton-wielding police to break up a political demonstration, lawsuit-wielding lawyers went after the organized places where only men gathered.
The heyday of the men’s club is definitely over. As I never experienced it, I won’t bother to mourn its passing. It’s simply a period of history that needs to be examined more closely when a clever social historian figures there’s a good book deal in it.
The king is dead, long live the king!
The men’s club is back. It’s gone virtual. It’s quite obvious that men are gathering on forums and blogs that cater to the usual masculine enthusiasms such as firearms, motorcycle, body building, cars, etc. Those are things and activities, not necessarily ideas. To be sure, there is usually an off-topic section in these discussion and often ideas are shared. By the way, those off topic message board sections are excellent for recruiting men to the cause.
The Manosphere (I am now capitalizing the word in all future posts and comments) is the new men’s club where ideas are discussed almost exclusively. This is dangerous to feminist ideology. Where feminists once had a serious degree of control of public discourse – the mass media – through politically correct shaming, the men have formed a vast, rather disorganized gathering place immune to shaming and censorship. It gets worse for feminist ideology, the men are discussing ideas.
Ideas are bad for ideologies. Ideas are dangerous to the status quo. Ideas cause revolutions. Ideas cause action. With the right technology, ideas can be spread almost instantaneously.
Note this photo:
It is not surprising that the Good Man Project, a feminist project through Ms Magazine, has had a series of articles on the Men’s Rights Movement, a huge part of the Manosphere. Such articles are an admission of the power of the Manosphere. The ideas of men simply can’t be ignored anymore.
As this wonderful men’s club continues to grow, the next phase of the discussion will be the transformation into action. This will require thousands of more men to be involved. It’s the duty of every man and aware woman to bring in more men to the Manosphere. Right now, it’s a big, messy club. Soon, it will be a movement.